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Kids are not Snowflakes

Tue, 28 Apr 2026 23:00:00 GMT

Kids Are Not Snowflakes – They’re Navigators of a Complex World

You hear it a lot: “Kids today are snowflakes.” Too sensitive. Too easily upset. Too unable to cope. It’s usually said with a sigh, a shake of the head, and a comparison to how things were “back in my day”.

But here’s the thing: calling children and young people “snowflakes” isn’t just inaccurate — it’s deeply undermining. And it ignores the reality of the world they are growing up in.

Today’s children are navigating a level of complexity that previous generations simply didn’t have to face at such a young age. They are growing up in a world of constant online connection, global news in their pockets, social media pressures, climate anxiety, economic uncertainty and, for many, stretched families and schools. That’s not fragility — that’s a lot to carry.

Children aren’t struggling because they are weak. They’re struggling because the world has changed.

Being more open about emotions doesn’t mean children are less resilient. In fact, it often shows the opposite. Today’s kids are better at naming their feelings, asking for help, and talking about mental health than generations before them. That’s not “snowflakery” — that’s emotional literacy. It’s a skill adults have spent decades trying to learn.

And let’s give credit where it’s due: many children are doing remarkably well despite the challenges they face. They adapted to lockdowns, disrupted schooling, and social isolation. They are learning to manage friendships online and offline, deal with constant comparison, and grow up under intense academic and social pressure — often with humour, creativity and compassion.

Language matters. When we dismiss young people as “snowflakes”, we teach them that their feelings are a problem, that asking for support is weakness, and that struggling in a tough world is a personal failure. That doesn’t build resilience — it erodes it.

Resilience doesn’t come from being told to “toughen up”. It comes from being understood, supported and believed in. It grows when adults acknowledge reality, set boundaries with kindness, and show young people that it’s okay to find things hard — and still keep going.

Kids aren’t snowflakes. They’re learners, adapters and problem-solvers, growing up in a world that’s faster, louder and more demanding than ever before. And honestly? Given everything they’re facing, they’re doing pretty brilliantly.

Strengths of Autism: Reframing the Narrative

Fri, 17 Apr 2026 03:00:02 GMT

Autism is a lifelong neurodevelopmental condition — but it’s also a difference in how the brain processes the world. That difference isn’t just about difficulties; it also brings distinctive strengths that can be valuable in many areas of life — particularly in the workplace.

Too often discussions focus on what autistic people struggle with, but recognising and celebrating positive traits is essential to building inclusive workplaces where everyone can thrive.

✨ Attention to Detail and Deep Focus

One of the most consistently highlighted strengths is exceptional attention to detail and sustained focus on tasks. In research where autistic adults reported their workplace experiences, many described cognitive advantages such as concentration, memory and efficiency — sometimes outperforming their non-autistic colleagues in tasks requiring deep focus and precision. These traits can be especially useful in roles involving data analysis, quality control, engineering and research.

✨ Creativity and Unique Perspectives

Autistic thinking styles can also bring creative problem-solving and innovative perspectives to a team. Research shows autistic employees often offer a unique autism-specific perspective that helps teams question assumptions and think differently about challenges — a valuable asset in sectors ranging from technology to design and beyond.

✨ Honesty, Dedication and Reliability

Autistic people are often described by research and community evidence as honest, dedicated and reliable — traits that many employers value highly. These personal strengths translate into consistent performance, loyalty and a strong work ethic when the right environment and supports are in place.

✨ Evidence from UK Health and Autism Bodies

Autistica, the UK’s leading autism research charity, highlights that autistic people can possess strengths such as attention to detail, creative problem-solving and honest communication — all of which can be hugely valuable in workplace settings.

Similarly, government work on autism employment emphasises that when workplaces become more autism-inclusive and support structures are improved, autistic employees can outperform expectations and help organisations thrive with high productivity and specialised skills. For certain roles, productivity improvements among autistic workers relative to neurotypical peers have been noted in research supporting policy recommendations.

Why Celebrating Strengths Matters
Recognising these positive traits isn’t just about being uplifting — it has real, practical benefits. When employers focus on strengths rather than deficits, they can:
• Build more inclusive and innovative teams
• Reduce employment barriers for autistic adults
• Unlock a pool of talented individuals eager to contribute
• Improve workplace satisfaction and outcomes for all employees
This shift helps move away from outdated stereotypes and towards a future where neurodiversity is genuinely valued.
If you’ve ever felt that autism is discussed only in terms of challenges, you’re not alone — and the research is increasingly turning that narrative around. Autistic people don’t just cope at work — in the right roles and environments, many thrive and contribute in remarkable ways.

When Money weighs on your mind

Tue, 14 Apr 2026 03:45:00 GMT

Most of us have felt tense about finances at some point — opening a bank statement with a sinking feeling, wondering how we’ll cover bills, or losing sleep over unexpected expenses. But for many in the UK, money worries are more than occasional stress: they’re a persistent burden affecting wellbeing, relationships and mental health.

How Common Are Money Worries in the UK?

Financial anxiety isn’t rare. Research shows that a huge majority of British adults experience distress connected to money. For example, around 89 % of people in the UK report worrying about their finances, and many have carried these worries for years. Younger adults and women are particularly likely to feel the pressure. ( virginmoney )

Sleep is another casualty. Recent findings suggest that about 72 % of UK adults lose sleep because of money worries, with concerns about using up savings or running out of cash at the front of many people’s minds.

For students, the picture is especially stark: nearly 78 % say money worries cause significant stress, leading many to avoid socialising or even checking their bank balance.

And it’s not just emotions — the practical reality of savings also matters. According to the UK’s top financial regulator , one in ten adults in Britain has no savings at all, and many of those who do have very little set aside for emergencies.

Money and Mental Health: Breaking the Cycle

Money worries don’t exist in isolation. They often intertwine with emotional wellbeing — making it harder to concentrate, sleep, or feel secure about the future. That’s where Money and Mental Health, the UK charity founded by Martin Lewis, steps in. The organisation is dedicated to breaking the vicious cycle between financial stress and poor mental health. You can explore their insights and support through their website .

I’ve been lucky enough to work with a few of their staff, and they’re fabulous — thoughtful, driven and deeply committed to making this a resource people can really turn to. It’s a brilliant source of both research and practical help for those struggling under the weight of financial stress.

Why This Matters

Money worries are more than numbers on a screen — they affect emotions, choices and everyday life. Knowing that others are experiencing the same challenges, and that organisations are working to support change, can make a real difference.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by financial stress, remember: you’re not alone, and there are resources and people ready to help you navigate this with compassion and understanding.

Be Kind to Your Dentist and Vet (They’re Doing Their Best, Honestly)

Tue, 24 Mar 2026 00:00:00 GMT

Let’s be honest—most of us don’t skip into a dental appointment with joy, and a trip to the vet usually means something has already gone wrong (often involving a pet eating something truly baffling). It’s easy to feel stressed… and sometimes that stress comes out as frustration about the cost.

But behind the scenes, dentists and veterinarians are under far more pressure than we might realise.

In the UK, the numbers are pretty eye-opening. Around 61% of dental professionals report high levels of emotional exhaustion , a key sign of burnout. Meanwhile, a UK survey found that 91% of vets say their job negatively affects their mental health . Both jobs increasingly levels or suicide and often staff leave these demanding jobs despite their services being desperately needed.

So why is it so hard?

Part of it is emotional. Dentists work with anxious (sometimes terrified) patients all day, while vets support worried owners and make difficult decisions about animal care. But a huge piece of the puzzle is financial—and it’s often misunderstood.

Yes, appointments can be expensive. And it’s completely valid to feel concerned about costs. But dentists and vets themselves are often under serious financial strain. Many have significant student loan debt, and instead of owning their practice, they may work under profit-driven organisations. On top of that, the cost of running a practice is enormous—buildings, specialist equipment, trained staff, insurance, and medical supplies all add up quickly.

So while it might feel like you’re paying them, they’re often juggling intense financial pressure too.

A little kindness goes a long way. A smile, a bit of patience, or simply recognising they’re trying to help can make a real difference.

Because at the end of the day, they’re not just fixing teeth or caring for pets—they’re doing a demanding job under pressure, and they’re human too.

Why Animals Are Basically Furry Therapists (But Cheaper and Judgier)

Fri, 20 Mar 2026 09:30:00 GMT

Let’s be honest: life is stressful. Emails pile up, your phone battery is always at 12%, and somehow you still don’t know what you’re having for dinner. Enter animals — the unlicensed therapists who don’t charge by the hour and are perfectly happy to sit on your lap while you question your life choices.

The Science-y Bit (Don’t Worry, It’s Short)

First, let’s sprinkle in some actual evidence so this doesn’t sound like I’m just emotionally dependent on my dog (I am, but still):

Studies have shown that interacting with animals can lower cortisol levels — that’s the stress hormone responsible for making you feel like a shaken soda can. Petting a dog or cat literally helps your body chill out.
Being around animals can also increase oxytocin, sometimes called the “love hormone.” This is the same chemical involved in bonding with humans, which explains why you feel personally betrayed when your cat ignores you.

So yes, science agrees: animals make you happier, calmer, and slightly more willing to forgive being woken up at 5am for no reason.

Why Animals Just Make Everything Better

Animals have a few key advantages over humans:

They don’t give unsolicited advice
They don’t care about your five-year plan
They think you’re amazing for doing very basic things (like existing)
A dog will celebrate you coming home like you’ve just completed an epic quest. A cat will sit on your laptop the exact moment you’re busiest, which is honestly just a reminder to take a break (thanks… I guess?).
They bring you into the present moment. You can’t overthink your entire life when a rabbit is chewing something it absolutely shouldn’t.

“But I Don’t Have a Pet…”

No problem — you can still get your animal fix without committing to 15 years of feeding something that judges you.

Here are some easy ways to hang out with animals:

Visit a local animal shelter
Many shelters welcome visitors or volunteers. You get cuddles, they get socialisation — everyone wins.

Offer to pet-sit or dog-walk
Friends, neighbours, or local community groups are often looking for help. It’s like borrowing happiness.

Go to a farm or petting zoo
There’s something deeply grounding about feeding goats or watching sheep do absolutely nothing.

Try animal cafés
Cat cafés (and even dog cafés in some places) let you sip coffee while being emotionally supported by a creature who may or may not sit on your lap.

Watch animals online (yes, it counts)
It’s not the same as real-life interaction, but studies suggest even watching animals can lift your mood. Also, it’s very hard to stay sad while watching a panda fall over.

A Quick Reality Check

Will animals solve all your problems? No.
Will they dramatically improve your day by doing something completely ridiculous? Absolutely.

They remind us to slow down, to be present, and to find joy in small things — like a walk, a nap, or aggressively chasing a leaf for no reason.

Final Thoughts

Whether you own a pet, borrow one, or just wave enthusiastically at dogs in the park (no judgement), animals have a special way of making life feel lighter.

And honestly, if lowering stress comes in the form of petting a very good dog… that’s a treatment plan I can get behind.

Tourette Syndrome: a reminder of strengths too

Mon, 09 Mar 2026 05:00:00 GMT

With "I Swear" recently a BAFTA winner for it's lead actor's portray of John Davidson's lived experience of coprolalia, one of the possible tics of tourette syndrome, it feels adapt to discuss this neurodifference in more detail. Let's leave aside that particular night. I think it highlights that despite all John's work and the film's success there's still a lot to do.

Tourette syndrome is often misunderstood. Many people’s only reference point is a stereotype from TV or film — usually focused on swearing or disruptive behaviour. In reality, Tourette syndrome is a neurological condition that is far more nuanced, and the people who live with it often show remarkable strengths alongside their challenges.

Tourette syndrome is a condition of the nervous system that usually begins in childhood. It involves tics, which are sudden, repetitive movements or sounds that a person doesn’t fully control. These might include blinking, throat-clearing, facial movements or vocal sounds. Tics can change over time, increase during stress or excitement, and often reduce when someone is relaxed or deeply focused. It affects about 1% of the school age population and of these only one in ten have coprolalia , in most cases whilst this involves involuntary noices, it does not involve swearing.

What’s important to understand is that Tourette syndrome is not a behavioural issue and not something someone chooses to do. It’s simply the brain working a little differently.

While tics can be challenging, people with Tourette syndrome often develop impressive strengths as a result of navigating the world in their own way.

One commonly reported strength is creativity. Many people with Tourette syndrome think quickly, make unusual connections and bring fresh ideas to problem-solving. This can be a real asset in creative industries, performance, writing, design and innovation-focused roles.

Another strength is resilience. Growing up with a visible condition can require courage, adaptability and a strong sense of self . Many people with Tourette syndrome develop empathy, persistence and emotional awareness far beyond their years . Handling misunderstandings, curiosity and sometimes stigma takes strength — and that strength often carries into adulthood.

People with Tourette syndrome can also show high levels of energy, enthusiasm and focus, particularly when they’re engaged in something they enjoy. Many describe entering a state of “flow” where tics reduce and concentration increases. This can make them highly effective in areas they’re passionate about, whether that’s sport, music, gaming, technology or study.

Importantly, Tourette syndrome often co-exists with conditions such as ADHD, OCD or autism — each of which can also bring valuable traits like attention to detail, hyperfocus or innovative thinking. With the right understanding and support, these differences can become advantages rather than barriers.

Tourette syndrome is not something to be pitied or feared though I recognise it's an incredibly tough condition to live with. It’s one part of a person’s identity — not the whole story. When we move beyond stereotypes and focus on strengths as well as challenges, we create a world where people with Tourette syndrome can be understood, valued and celebrated.

Because behind every tic is a person with talents, humour, insight and a lot to offer. Enjoy this gorgeous film featured in Children in Need about Shay and his lived experience.

Giving Back

Thu, 05 Mar 2026 00:00:00 GMT

Because of you, DevelopMental UK can sponsor, donate and give back. THANK YOU.

Last year this meant that I was able to sponsor the following charities and organisations:

- Alabare supporting the Homeless and those in crisis. The financial crisis can be seen in the rise of the homeless. Often these individuals have long standing experiencees of poor mental health.

- British Heart Foundation: heart and circulatory disease are the biggest killers globally. Ill health and bereavement have huge ripple efforts on those around the individuals effecting their mental well being.

- Comic Relief: happy to support so many organisations doing so many fantastic things at local level. What a great cause.

- Greenpeace (not a charity so they can lobby the government). Time and again individuals tell me that time out in the wild or walking the dog out in nature in fundemental to their mental health. At a time of incredible environmental pressure, campaigning to protect our greenspaces in something I am only too glad to do. I have spoken at length with Greenpeace to understand how they currently run their organisation and am delighted to support their team.

- Plan International - our 4th year sponsoring little Elvir and his community in Honduras. Prior to that I sponsored Rosa in Peru for up to her 18th Birthday. I have now been a sponsor of this fabulous charity for over 15 years.

- Red Cross supporting those in crisis world wide. At the time of writing this the Red Cross are currently operating in the UK, Gaza, the Middle East, Afghanistan, The Yemen, various african regions experiencing food crisis, to name a few.

- Salisbury Hospice giving incredible moments of joy for those in the final stages of life, and supporting their families through a terrible time.

A huge thank you for supporting DevelopMentalUK. Because of you, I am able to give back to these charities and to numerous charity boxes. Together we can bring hope back into people's lives.

When the world is overwhelming....

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 12:06:13 GMT

When the world feels overwhelming, it can feel like there’s no escape. The news is constant. Social media never sleeps. Headlines seem louder, heavier, and more urgent than ever. If you’ve found yourself feeling anxious, tense, or emotionally drained by it all — you’re not alone.

Our brains aren’t designed to process a 24/7 stream of global crises. When we’re exposed to relentless bad news, our stress response can stay switched on. That can leave us feeling helpless, irritable, exhausted, or even numb.

The good news? There are small, practical steps that can help you regain a sense of balance.

�� Set boundaries with the news you consume
It’s okay to take a break from the news. Stepping back doesn’t mean you don’t care — it means you’re protecting your mental health. Consider checking the news just once or twice a day rather than constantly scrolling. You might also unfollow or mute social media accounts that heighten your anxiety. Curating what you consume is an act of self-care.

�� Practise grounding exercises
When everything feels out of control, grounding techniques can bring you back to the present moment. Simple exercises — such as noticing five things you can see, four you can feel, three you can hear — can calm your nervous system. A walk in nature, feeling your feet on the ground, or taking slow, steady breaths can gently ease your stress response.

�� Have phone-free times
Doomscrolling is real, and it can intensify overwhelm. Creating intentional phone-free times or spaces can help break the cycle. Try switching your phone to aeroplane mode in the evening, or keeping certain areas — like the bedroom or dining table — as phone-free zones. Giving your mind space to rest is powerful.

�� Talk with others
Overwhelm often lessens when we share it. Connecting with friends, family, or someone you trust can remind you that you’re not carrying everything alone. Even a simple conversation or shared laugh can lighten the emotional load.

�� Focus on what you can control
When global events feel huge, it’s easy to feel powerless. But small actions still matter. Signing a petition, donating items, volunteering locally, or supporting a cause you care about can shift feelings from helplessness to purpose.

If you’d like to explore this topic further, the Mental Health Foundation has a helpful article on coping with overwhelm when global events and relentless bad news feel too much.

Be gentle with yourself. Protecting your peace isn’t avoidance — it’s resilience.

Are you supporting your Trans colleagues?

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 12:00:56 GMT

Feeling seen, for who we truly are, matters more than we sometimes realise. It helps us feel connected. Valued. Safe. For some people, that sense of belonging comes naturally — perhaps because they’ve never had to question where they fit or whether they’ll be accepted. For others, it’s far more complicated.

Empathy doesn’t require us to have lived the same experiences as someone else. It simply asks us to listen. To stay open. To be willing to understand, even when something feels unfamiliar.

For many transgender people, feeling seen and accepted isn’t a given. And the mental health impact of that lack of acceptance is significant.

UK research paints a stark picture. Stonewall’s LGBT in Britain report found that 48% of trans people had experienced depression in the previous year. The same report revealed that 41% of trans people had experienced a hate crime or incident because of their gender identity . Meanwhile, the Government Equalities Office National LGBT Survey reported that more than 80% of trans respondents had experienced anxiety in the previous year, and many avoided expressing their gender identity for fear of negative reactions .

These statistics are not about being transgender as a problem. They reflect the impact of discrimination, rejection, inequality, and the daily stress of navigating environments that are not always inclusive.

Experiences such as family rejection, workplace exclusion, social stigma, and gender dysphoria can all contribute to poorer mental health outcomes.

And many of these factors persist because, as humans, we are not always talking enough — or being kind enough.

Workplaces have a powerful role to play. For many adults, work is where we spend the majority of our time. A supportive workplace can act as a protective factor for mental wellbeing. An unsafe one can deepen isolation and distress.

Creating a more inclusive environment for transgender employees doesn’t require perfection. It starts with intention. With curiosity. With respect.

That might look like:

Using correct names and pronouns
Challenging discriminatory language or behaviour
Reviewing policies to ensure they are inclusive
Providing education and awareness training
Creating spaces where people feel psychologically safe to speak

When someone feels seen for who they are — not who others assume them to be — it changes everything. It fosters belonging. It reduces isolation. It improves wellbeing.

So here’s a simple question to reflect on:

What are you doing to make your workplace more supportive and inclusive for your trans employees? Sometimes, small changes truly do create life-changing impact.

My Manager is making my life miserable

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 11:51:28 GMT

Have you ever thought, “My manager is making my life miserable”?

You’re not alone. In fact, you’re in the majority.

When you think about it, it makes complete sense. Most of us spend a huge portion of our waking hours at work. We speak to our managers and colleagues daily. We receive feedback from them. We rely on them for direction, support, progression, and often validation. The tone they set, the way they communicate, and how they respond under pressure all shape our day-to-day experience.

Work doesn’t just stay at work, either. It follows us home — in our thoughts, our mood, and sometimes even our sleep.

And yet, here’s something surprising: fewer than 29% of organisations provide mental health training.

That’s a big gap.

Managers play a crucial role in shaping workplace culture. They are often the first to notice changes in behaviour, performance, or engagement. But without the right tools and confidence, even the most well-meaning manager can feel unsure about what to say or do.

Mental health training isn’t about turning managers into therapists. It’s about equipping them with practical skills and awareness so they can:

Recognise early signs that someone might be struggling
Have supportive, open conversations without fear of “saying the wrong thing”
Respond appropriately and confidently
Create psychologically safer environments
Reduce stigma around mental health
Improve trust and team morale
Support productivity in a sustainable way

When managers are trained, everyone benefits. Employees feel seen and supported. Absence and burnout can be reduced. Teams communicate more openly. And organisations build cultures where people can genuinely thrive — not just survive.

The truth is, most managers want to do the right thing. They just need guidance. Without training, they may avoid conversations because they feel awkward or underprepared. With training, those same conversations become opportunities for connection and support.

If you’re wondering how mental health training could fit into your organisation, the good news is: it’s easier than you think. It doesn’t have to be complicated or overwhelming. Small steps can lead to meaningful change.

And the impact? More powerful than you might imagine.

If this is something you’ve been considering, let’s have a conversation. Supporting mental health at work isn’t just a “nice to have” — it’s a foundation for healthier, more productive teams.

Neurodiverse is strong

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 11:45:17 GMT

Neurodiversity reminds us that there isn’t one “right” way for a brain to work. Conditions such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia and others represent natural variations in thinking styles. While conversations often focus on challenges, there are powerful strengths that frequently show up in neurodivergent individuals—and these strengths bring huge value to workplaces, communities, and entrepreneurship.

In fact, some studies suggest that as many as 69% of entrepreneurs are neurodiverse, with many drawn to riskier propositions, bold ideas, and unconventional paths. That willingness to think differently and take calculated risks can be a serious advantage in business and innovation.

Here are 10 strengths commonly seen among neurodiverse individuals:

1. Creative and Innovative Thinking
Neurodivergent people often see solutions others miss. They connect ideas in unexpected ways and aren’t afraid to challenge conventional thinking.

2. Comfort with Risk
Many are naturally drawn to bold moves and new ventures—one reason neurodiversity is so common in entrepreneurship. Taking calculated risks can feel more energising than intimidating.

3. Deep Focus (Hyperfocus)

When something sparks interest, the ability to concentrate intensely can lead to exceptional productivity and mastery.

4. Strong Pattern Recognition
Spotting trends, anomalies, and connections is a standout skill. This strength is especially valuable in technology, finance, design, research, and strategy.

5. Attention to Detail
Many neurodivergent individuals notice subtleties others overlook—making them excellent at quality control, editing, data analysis, and systems improvement.

6. Authentic Communication
Directness and honesty are common traits. This can foster trust, clarity, and transparency in teams and leadership roles.

7. Passion-Driven Work Ethic
Special interests often turn into deep expertise. When aligned with a career, this passion can fuel long-term dedication and innovation.

8. Resilience and Adaptability
Navigating a world not always designed for their thinking style builds problem-solving skills and perseverance.

9. Independent Thinking

Neurodivergent individuals may be less influenced by social pressure or groupthink, allowing them to form original opinions and creative strategies.

10. Strong Sense of Justice and Empathy
Many feel a deep commitment to fairness and inclusion, making them thoughtful leaders and advocates for change.

Of course, every person is different, and strengths vary from individual to individual. But when we shift the conversation from “deficits” to differences, we start to see just how much talent and innovation neurodiverse minds contribute.

When supported and understood, these strengths don’t just help individuals thrive—they help businesses, communities, and entire industries move forward.

Self Harm: what it is and how to help

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 14:46:29 GMT

Self-harm is a complex and often misunderstood behaviour. It refers to deliberately hurting one’s own body as a way of coping with overwhelming emotions, distress, or feeling numb. For many people, self-harm is not about wanting to die, but about trying to manage feelings that feel too difficult to express or control in other ways.

Self-harm can take many forms. These may include cutting or scratching the skin, burning, hitting oneself, pulling out hair, or interfering with wound healing. Some people may also misuse substances or engage in risky behaviours as a form of self-harm. While the behaviours can look different from person to person, the underlying reasons are often similar: a need for relief, expression, or a sense of control during emotional pain.

A crucial and often misunderstood point is that self-harm is not the same as a suicide attempt. Although someone who self-harms may feel deeply distressed, many people use self-harm as a coping mechanism rather than an attempt to end their life. That said, self-harm should always be taken seriously, as it can increase risk over time and is a sign that someone needs support.

Stigma is one of the biggest barriers to getting help. People who self-harm are often unfairly labelled as “attention-seeking” or told to “just stop”, which can lead to shame and secrecy. Fear of judgement can prevent individuals from opening up to friends, family, or professionals. This stigma can be especially strong for young people and for those who feel they are already misunderstood.

Evidence shows how common self-harm is. Research suggests that around 1 in 5 young people in the UK report having self-harmed at some point, making it far more widespread than many realise. Studies also show that self-harm is strongly associated with anxiety and depression, highlighting the importance of early, compassionate intervention.

So how can we help? Start by listening calmly and without judgement. You don’t need to fix the situation — offering empathy and taking someone’s feelings seriously can make a huge difference. Avoid giving ultimatums or focusing on stopping the behaviour immediately. Encouraging professional support, such as speaking to a GP or mental health service, can be a positive next step.

By challenging stigma, sharing accurate information, and leading with kindness, we can create safer spaces for people to seek help. On 1st March 2026 join Self Harm Awareness Day #SHAD2026 and help everyone understand that support and recovery are possible, and no one should have to cope with distress alone.

What does a Mental Health First Aider do?

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 14:41:25 GMT

A Mental Health First Aider (MHFAider) is someone trained to offer initial support to a person who may be experiencing a mental health challenge or crisis. Much like physical first aid, the role is about helping in the moment — not providing long-term treatment.

So, what does a Mental Health First Aider do?

They l isten without judgement , offer reassurance, and take concerns seriously. They’re trained to recognise common signs of mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, panic attacks, or distress, and to respond calmly and compassionately. A Mental Health First Aider can also encourage someone to seek appropriate professional help or support services and share useful information or resources when needed.

Just as importantly, there are clear things a Mental Health First Aider does not do . They are NOT therapists, counsellors, or doctors. They don’t diagnose conditions, provide medical advice, or try to “fix” someone’s problems. They’re also not there to force help on anyone or act as a long-term support system.

At its heart, mental health first aid is about being human — noticing when someone might be struggling, starting a supportive conversation, and helping them take the next step if they’re ready.

Sometimes, knowing someone cares and is willing to listen can make all the difference. Join me on the next course .

Eating Disorder Awareness Week

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 14:35:17 GMT

The week of the 23rd February is the beginning of Eating Disorder Awareness Week. With that in mind, here's an overview of what eating disorders are and how to help.

Understanding Eating Disorders: Compassion, Stigma, and Support

Eating disorders are serious mental health conditions that affect people of all ages, genders, and backgrounds. Among the most common are anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, and binge eating disorder. While each looks different, they often share deep emotional pain, distress around food or body image, and a need for understanding rather than judgment.

Anorexia nervosa is often marked by severe restriction of food, an intense fear of weight gain, and a distorted body image. People with anorexia may not recognise the seriousness of their condition, even when their health is at risk.

Bulimia nervosa involves cycles of binge eating followed by behaviours such as vomiting, excessive exercise, or misuse of laxatives to compensate. These behaviours are often hidden and accompanied by shame.

Binge eating disorder is characterized by recurring episodes of eating large amounts of food while feeling a loss of control, without compensatory behaviors. It is frequently misunderstood as a lack of willpower, which can deepen stigma.

Stigma is one of the biggest barriers people with eating disorders face. Misconceptions like “you don’t look sick,” “just eat,” or “this is a choice” can prevent individuals from seeking help. Many people fear being judged, dismissed, or blamed, which can increase isolation and delay recovery. Weight stigma is especially harmful, as people in larger bodies are often overlooked or not taken seriously by healthcare providers.

So how can we help? First, listen without judgment. You don’t need to fix the problem—being present and compassionate matters more than saying the perfect thing. Avoid commenting on appearance or food choices. Encourage professional support when appropriate, and remind the person that help is available and recovery is possible. If you’re concerned about someone’s safety, reaching out to a trusted professional or support service is an important step.

Evidence shows just how widespread and serious these conditions are. Research indicates that around 9% of the global population will experience an eating disorder in their lifetime, making them far more common than many people realise. Additionally, eating disorders have one of the highest mortality rates of any mental illness, highlighting the importance of early support and intervention.

By challenging stigma, sharing accurate information, and leading with empathy, we can create safer spaces for people to seek help and heal. Recovery is not linear, but no one should have to walk that path alone.

MHFA Community - who are we?

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 14:28:22 GMT

Who we are?

The Association of Mental Health First Aiders has hundreds of thousands of members at its heart – all dedicated to helping workplaces and communities become more mentally healthy and productive every day.

They do this through certified training with Mental Health First Aid England® , the social enterprise that founded this Association. MHFA England® is the country’s leading provider of quality mental health training and the national authority on mental health first aid.

Once someone has trained as a Mental Health First Aider, also known as an MHFAider®, or as a Youth Mental Health First Aider, they are certified for three years. They’re also invited to become members of this Association, with access to exclusive support and benefits, once they have completed training with me.

Grounded in experience

Since 2007, MHFA England Instructor Members have trained more than a million people, reaching 1 in 40 adults in England so far. MHFA England’s evidence-based courses are proven to make a lasting difference to workplaces, individuals and society.

Mental Health First Aiders develop the skills to spot the signs of a person experiencing poor mental health, and the confidence to start a conversation. They also learn about the tools to signpost them to appropriate support so that everyone can thrive.

One community

To deepen the positive impact MHFAiders and their Instructor Members are already making, the Association of Mental Health First Aiders brings us together in one diverse and inclusive community. It offers members exclusive access to a wide range of mental health first aid resources, from ongoing learning and qualifications to events and research.

The aim is to connect and empower members to go even further in improving the nation’s wellbeing. But they won’t stop there. The community continues to grow and it's great to celebrate your achievements.

How it's governed

The Association of Mental Health First Aiders is a not-for-profit company limited by guarantee, and is a subsidiary of MHFA England. It’s led by MHFA England Chief Executive Sarah McIntosh.

The Association’s board of Non-executive Directors is the same as MHFA England’s, and its Chair is Adah Parris.

Random Acts of Kindness - I love these!

Thu, 22 Jan 2026 12:02:44 GMT

There’s something wonderfully uplifting about a random act of kindness. No planning, no pressure — just a simple moment where you choose to make someone else’s day a little brighter. And the best part? That joy almost always makes you buzz too!

Random acts of kindness can be tiny: a smile at a stranger, a genuine “thank you,” holding the door open, or sending a quick message to check in on someone. These moments may seem small, but they can have a huge impact. You never know what someone else is carrying, and that small gesture might be exactly what they need.

Kindness is contagious. When someone experiences it, they’re more likely to pass it on, creating a ripple effect that spreads far beyond the original act. One thoughtful moment can quietly influence an entire day — or even a week.

In busy workplaces and everyday life, kindness often gets overlooked, but it matters more than ever. A kind word during a stressful moment, patience when things go wrong, or recognition for effort can turn tension into connection.

Best of all, you don’t need special skills or perfect timing. Kindness is available to all of us, every single day. So why not start now? Choose kindness — randomly, generously, and often. The world could use more of it, and you’ll feel better for it too. ✨ For some ideas check out this fab calendar

Suicide Prevention is everyone's Business

Thu, 22 Jan 2026 11:39:17 GMT

Suicide is a profoundly human issue that reaches into virtually every workplace — yet many organisations still feel unprepared to talk about it openly or respond safely when it affects their people.

Recent research shows that suicide is far more common and far closer to all of us than many assume. In the UK in 2023, there were 7,055 deaths by suicide, averaging roughly 19 lives lost each day — and with ripple effects felt widely by friends, families and colleagues.

But the impact of suicide isn’t limited to tragic loss. Studies suggest around 10% of suicides may be linked with work-related factors such as stress, job insecurity or bullying — highlighting that workplace conditions can intersect with wider stressors in people’s lives.

Behind each loss are dozens of people directly or indirectly affected, including coworkers, supervisors and clients — all of whom may struggle with grief, guilt, confusion or trauma.

Despite this reality, many employers feel uncertain about how to respond. Conversations about suicide are often avoided out of fear — fear of saying the wrong thing, fear of liability, or even fear that talking about suicide will encourage it. The evidence shows the opposite is true: compassionate, informed conversations can reduce feelings of isolation and encourage help-seeking.

This might include BS 30480: Suicide and the Workplace — Intervention, prevention and support for people affected by suicide comes in. This new benchmark, published by the British Standards Institution, is the first British Standard to focus explicitly on suicide awareness in organisational settings. It provides practical, evidence-based recommendations to help organisations prepare for, respond to, and support people impacted by suicide or struggling with suicidal thoughts.

But suicide prevention isn’t just about formal standards or protocols — it’s a shared responsibility. You don’t need to be a mental health expert to make a difference. What matters is being ready to ask with care, listen without judgement, respond with empathy, and signpost to appropriate support when someone shows signs of distress. You have guessed it, that's what a Mental Health First Aider does!

By normalising open conversations about suicide and equipping workplaces with practical tools and understanding, organisations can build environments where people feel seen, supported and safer — and where prevention truly becomes everyone’s business.

Why Supporting Neurodivergence in the Workplace Really Matters

Fri, 16 Jan 2026 11:08:37 GMT

Workplaces are made up of people—and people think, learn, and work in wonderfully different ways. Yet for a long time, many organisations have been built around the idea that there’s only one “right” way to communicate, focus, socialise, or solve problems. That’s where supporting neurodivergence comes in—and why it’s so important.

First things first: what is neurodivergence?

Neurodivergence refers to natural differences in how people’s brains work. This includes, autism, ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, dysgraphia, dyscalculia and Tourette syndrome. Neurodivergent people don’t need to be “fixed”—they simply experience and interact with the world differently.

And those differences? They can be incredible strengths.

Different brains bring fresh perspectives

Neurodivergent employees often excel at things like creative problem-solving, pattern recognition, attention to detail, and innovative thinking. They may see solutions others miss or question assumptions that have gone unchallenged for years.

When workplaces support neurodivergence, they unlock a wider range of ideas and approaches. That diversity of thought leads to better decision-making, more innovation, and stronger teams overall.

Inclusion isn’t just kind—it’s smart

Supporting neurodivergent employees isn’t only the right thing to do ethically; it also makes good business sense. Inclusive workplaces tend to have higher employee engagement, better retention, and a more positive culture.

Simple adjustments—like flexible working hours, clear communication, quiet spaces, or allowing different ways to complete tasks—can make a huge difference. Often, these changes benefit everyone, not just neurodivergent staff.

A supportive workplace reduces unnecessary barriers

Many neurodivergent people face challenges at work not because they lack ability, but because environments aren’t designed with them in mind. Overstimulating offices, vague instructions, or unspoken social expectations can create stress and burnout.

By proactively supporting neurodivergence, organisations remove these barriers and allow people to focus on what they do best—doing great work.

Psychological safety helps everyone thrive

When employees feel safe to be themselves at work, they’re more confident, productive, and engaged. Creating a culture where neurodivergent people feel understood and valued sends a powerful message: you belong here.

That sense of belonging doesn’t stop with neurodivergent staff—it lifts morale and trust across the whole organisation.

Supporting neurodivergence is an ongoing journey

There’s no one-size-fits-all solution. Supporting neurodivergent employees means listening, learning, and being open to change. It’s about asking questions, challenging outdated norms, and recognising that flexibility is a strength, not a weakness.

Most importantly, it’s about seeing people as individuals—not labels.

In summary

Supporting neurodivergence in the workplace creates more inclusive, innovative, and human organisations. When we embrace different ways of thinking and working, everyone benefits—employees, teams, and businesses alike.

Because the best workplaces aren’t built for “typical” minds—they’re built for real ones.

Thrive Instructor !!

Mon, 12 Jan 2026 11:24:21 GMT

I am super excited to share i have qualified as a Neurodiversity Instructor with Thrive — a journey that has me bouncing with purpose, pride, and a deep sense of impact. Anyone who is Neurodivergent has so many strengths to offer but often these are missed, and it's been great to team up with Thrive who are intent on bringing this knowledge to all organisations worldwide.

�� What Is Thrive All About?

Thrive is on a mission to change the way workplaces think about neurodiversity and mental health — moving away from outdated stigma toward genuine understanding and inclusion. Their vision? Helping one person at a time to not just survive, but thrive.

Having completed their training — a programme built on lived experiences, real-world insights, and practical tools, I am excited to be able to share all their training with you. Watch out to new training opportunities coming in this spring.

Brew Monday - Support Samaritans

Thu, 08 Jan 2026 10:15:02 GMT

I really want to give a shout out to this amazing organisation and their event:

Brew Monday is Samaritans’ warm reminder that any day is a good day to connect with someone you care about. Instead of focusing on the idea of “Blue Monday,” Samaritans turns the third Monday in January into a celebration of connection—encouraging everyone to put the kettle on, share a cuppa, and have a real conversation.

The message is simple: small talk can become meaningful talk, and a relaxed chat can make a genuine difference. Human connection doesn’t need to be complicated or dramatic—it can start with a mug, a moment, and a little time set aside to listen.

Samaritans encourages us to reach out, especially if someone has been quieter than usual or hasn’t checked in for a while. A short message or an invitation for a catch-up can help someone feel valued and supported. Their downloadable Brew Monday resources make it easy for anyone to get involved and start conversations that matter.

I want to help promote this brilliant organisation because they continue to highlight the power of listening, compassion, and everyday connection. Brew Monday is a lovely reminder that reaching out can happen any time, any day, and over any drink—as long as we’re talking, listening, and showing we care.

Mental Health First Aid - What it is and what it is not!

Thu, 08 Jan 2026 10:10:43 GMT

Mental Health First Aid’s a toolkit, you see,
For noticing signs like worry or low energy.
It’s learning to listen with patience and care,
And saying, “I’m here—let’s talk if you’d like to share.”

It’s knowing the steps to guide someone through,
When they’re feeling unsure of what they should do.
It’s offering comfort, calm, and support,
Not giving diagnoses or a clinical report.

It’s not mind-reading, fortune-telling, or vibes,
Or handing out labels or professional advice.
It’s not fixing everything with one magic line,
Or saying, “Cheer up—everything’s fine!”

It’s not superhero training with capes in a kit,
Or learning to “solve” life in ten minutes flat.
It’s not becoming a therapist overnight—
Just knowing how to help when things feel tight.

But it is about kindness, steady and real,
Creating connection through how we listen and feel.
It’s a bridge, not a cure; a nudge, not a shove—
A reminder that support starts with language and love.

So MHFA is simple, practical art:
Helping someone take the next step to restart.
Not dramatic, not fancy, but human and true—
A little bit of knowledge that anyone can do.

...and relax!

Wed, 07 Jan 2026 10:27:39 GMT

Sometimes we imagine self-care as something that needs a whole hour, a quiet room, or a perfectly planned routine. But the reality is that life rarely pauses long enough for that. That’s why “self-care snacks” can be such a helpful approach—short, gentle moments that allow you to reset, release tension, and support your mental wellbeing even on the busiest days.

As a new month begins, it’s a great time to start by simply noticing your body a little more. Our bodies often hold onto tension we don’t even realise is there. Taking just five minutes to check in can make a surprising difference.

Find a comfortable spot to sit, take a steady breath in, and a slow breath out. At first you might think you’re already relaxed—and if you are, wonderful—but many of us carry small pockets of tightness without noticing.

Ask yourself:

�� Are my toes clenched?
�� Is my jaw tight or my teeth pressed together?
�� Is my forehead scrunching without me realising it?

These tiny tensions might not seem important, but they can add up. Once you become aware of them, you can release them—soften your toes, ease your jaw, smooth your forehead. With every small release, your body sends a gentle signal to your mind that things are safe, steady, and calm.

A self-care snack might be two minutes of stretching, a quiet sip of your drink, a short walk to another room, or a moment of mindful breathing. These breaks don’t have to be fancy or time-consuming; they simply need to be intentional. A few minutes sprinkled throughout the day can help you refocus, relieve stress, and feel more grounded.

So if an hour of self-care isn’t possible, don’t worry. These little pauses—tiny acts of kindness toward yourself—can bring balance and clarity in a way that fits smoothly into everyday life.

Your kids are everything, but you need to look after yourself too!

Wed, 07 Jan 2026 10:25:38 GMT

Being a parent is one of those roles that doesn’t come with an “off” switch. Even when you’re heading into work, attending meetings, or trying to focus on the task in front of you, a part of your mind is still holding space for everything happening at home. Whether it’s a child who’s going through a challenging phase, a worry from the morning rush, or simply the continuous mental list parents carry, it all travels with you. And when life gets busy, that mental load can make it harder to concentrate, stay organised, or feel fully present in the moment.

Parent Mental Health Day (PMHD), held each year on 30th January, is a gentle reminder of just how important it is to acknowledge this reality. It highlights the vital link between the wellbeing of parents and carers and the wellbeing of the whole family. When the adults who support children feel understood, supported, and mentally well, the entire household benefits. A calmer parent can help create a calmer environment; a supported parent can support more effectively.

The aim of PMHD isn’t to add pressure or suggest that parents should be doing more—it’s quite the opposite. It’s about recognising that parents and carers already carry a huge emotional and practical responsibility. It’s about understanding that mental health is shaped by many factors, including stress, sleep, connection, nutrition and access to support. And it’s about encouraging conversations that help parents feel less alone with the weight they’re carrying.

What makes this day so valuable is its focus on awareness and compassion. Parenting involves making countless decisions, managing expectations, and navigating unexpected challenges, all while trying to maintain balance. Even on the best days, it can feel like spinning plates. On the tougher days, it can feel overwhelming. PMHD encourages us to pause and acknowledge that these feelings are valid.

It also reminds workplaces, friends, and communities that supporting parents doesn’t always require grand gestures. Sometimes it’s offering flexibility, checking in, or simply understanding that someone may not be at their sharpest when things are difficult at home.

Most importantly, Parent Mental Health Day opens the door to conversations about seeking support without judgement. No one benefits from parents pushing through in silence. When parents take care of their mental health—whether through rest, connection, reflection, or professional help—it strengthens the entire family’s wellbeing.

So on 30th January, and every day, let’s remind parents and carers that their mental health matters too.

Recovering in 'your' time

Wed, 07 Jan 2026 10:22:29 GMT

Recovery is often talked about as “getting back to how things were,” but in reality, it’s usually something far more personal, gentle, and individual. Rather than aiming to return to a previous version of ourselves, recovery can be seen as moving forward—learning, adapting, and finding new ways to live well. It’s a journey that doesn’t look the same for any two people and might often have frustrating set backs but that's part of the recovery.

There is always hope for recovery, even when progress feels slow or uncertain. Hope isn’t about pretending everything is perfect; it’s about recognising that change is possible and that support is available. It’s about taking one step at a time, even if those steps are small. Every moment of reflection, rest, or effort counts. When we remind ourselves that recovery doesn’t follow a straight line, we create more space to acknowledge the ups and downs with compassion rather than pressure.

One of the most important things to remember is that each person’s experience is unique. Some may move through their recovery quickly, while others take more time, pause, or change direction. This isn’t a sign of success or failure—it’s simply the natural variation in how people navigate their own wellbeing. Offering each other understanding as we travel our individual paths is a simple kindness that can make a real difference. A listening ear, a thoughtful message, or simply being patient with one another helps build a sense of connection and safety.

We can all get better at offering that understanding when we learn more about mental health. Education encourages empathy. It helps us listen without judgement and respond with calmness and clarity. The more we understand, the more confidently we can support ourselves and others when things feel challenging.

Recovery isn’t about turning back the clock. It’s about moving forward with hope, curiosity, and compassion—for ourselves and for the people around us. When we recognise that every journey is unique, we create space for everyone to heal in their own way and their own time. Whatever your journey may look like, know that you are not alone.

Thank you to all those amazing people out there!

Tue, 06 Jan 2026 10:16:59 GMT

Saying “thank you” might seem like a small gesture, but when it comes to supporting mental health and building strong connections, it can have a surprisingly big impact. In a world where everyone is juggling responsibilities, pressures, and quiet challenges that often go unseen, taking a moment to recognise someone’s effort can create a real sense of belonging and value.

When we acknowledge what someone has done—whether it’s a colleague who helped with a task, a friend who checked in, or a family member who held things together—we’re not just noticing an action. We’re noticing them. Feeling seen and appreciated can boost confidence, increase motivation, and gently remind people that what they do matters. This can be especially meaningful for individuals who may be experiencing stress or low mood, as positive connection helps strengthen emotional resilience.

Recognition also builds stronger relationships. A simple “thank you” encourages kindness to flow both ways, creating a supportive environment where people feel comfortable communicating openly. It helps create a culture of trust rather than pressure, collaboration rather than isolation.

Most importantly, expressing gratitude keeps us grounded in the present. It encourages us to slow down, look around, and appreciate the people who make our daily lives a little easier, brighter, or calmer.

So next time someone does something helpful—big or small—say thank you. Not because you have to, but because those two words can make a difference to someone’s day, someone’s wellbeing, and the connection you share. Kindness doesn’t need to be grand; it just needs to be genuine.

Time to Talk

Sat, 03 Jan 2026 10:29:31 GMT

Talking openly and honestly about mental health can feel like a small action, but it has the power to make a big difference. When we share how we’re feeling—or create space for someone else to talk—we help normalise conversations that many people still find difficult. Openness reduces stigma, builds understanding, and helps people feel comfortable enough to seek support when they need it. Sometimes that very first conversation can be the moment someone realises they’re not alone.

That’s what Time to Talk Day is all about. It’s the nation’s biggest mental health conversation and a reminder that talking about how we feel doesn’t need to be formal, perfect, or serious every second. It can happen over a cup of tea, during a walk, on a lunch break, or in a group chat. What matters most is the connection—not the setting.

On Time to Talk Day, friends, families, communities, and workplaces come together to talk, listen, and strengthen understanding. It’s a day that encourages us to check in on the people around us, but also to check in with ourselves. These conversations can build trust, encourage confidence, and help create environments where people feel supported every day—not just once a year.

Listening plays a huge role too. Sometimes the most helpful thing we can do is offer our full attention without trying to fix anything. A calm, open conversation can give someone the space they need to express what’s been on their mind.

If you’re not sure how to start the conversation, that’s completely normal. A simple “How are things going for you lately?” or “I’m here if you’d like to talk” can be enough. Small moments of honesty can lead to big changes.

For more information, ideas, and helpful resources, visit timetotalkday.co.uk.

Let’s use #TimeToTalkDay as a reminder that talking about mental health is something we can all do—and that a single conversation can truly help change a life.

Start the New Year with a good Snack!

Thu, 01 Jan 2026 11:56:00 GMT

Let’s start the New Year with a little #selfcaresnack that looks gently toward the future. Instead of diving into huge resolutions or overwhelming life plans, how about we do something a bit more fun—and way more doable? Let’s make a tiny plan to do something we actually enjoy. Yep, tiny! Because small moments can be just as delightful as the big ones.

Take five minutes (literally, set a timer!) and have a little think. What’s something simple you can look forward to this week?

�� Maybe it’s planning an upcoming meal. You could pick up your favourite fruit and enjoy it for breakfast in the next few days. Or go all out and plan a quirky little Saturday lunch—spread out a blanket on the floor, grab some snacks, and have a mini indoor picnic while watching your favourite show. It’s amazing how a tiny twist can make the ordinary feel special.

��‍➡️ Or plan a mini-adventure. Is there a spot in your town you’ve never checked out, even though it’s basically around the corner? A new café, a quiet park, a street you’ve never walked? Your next day off could be the perfect time to explore.

What tiny plan are you making? Share your ideas in the comments—I’d love to hear them! ��

Being festive can be resting too!

Thu, 25 Dec 2025 15:46:12 GMT

Christmas can be especially tough when you’re feeling sad, overwhelmed, or anxious — and truly, that’s completely okay. You don’t have to switch on joy just because the world feels festive today. Your feelings are valid, and you’re allowed to move through this day gently, at your own pace.

Let today become whatever you need it to be. Traditions aren’t set in stone, and plans can shift without guilt. If your body or heart is asking for stillness, listen to it. Curl up in a cosy nook, wrap yourself in a blanket, nap as long as you need, or simply sit quietly with a warm drink. Rest isn’t a sign that you’re missing out — it’s a sign that you’re caring for yourself.

And if you find comfort in company or activity, that’s okay too. You can let the movement and noise of others flow around you without any pressure to match their energy. There’s no “right” way to spend this day.

What matters is honoring your own rhythm. Your path through Christmas doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s, and it certainly doesn’t need to be perfect.

From my heart to yours, wishing you a peaceful, gentle, and truly Merry Christmas ��

Who will you be training with?

Sun, 07 Dec 2025 14:25:21 GMT

As Russell Howard once said 'at the age of three we like splashing in puddles and custard'. I haven't changed much since then!

I'm not entirely sure how I ended up as a MHFA Instructor, but maybe that's what keeps me in awe of those I meet and keen to give them the best experience of what can be a tricky subject. For me it makes every course an adventure and a privilege to be trusted by those who join me in undergoing that journey. It's not something I take lightly. So if you are debating joining me this is what you can expect.

I am:

- keen to understand you

- still loving custard. And most puddings. And cheeses....in fact most edibles will find a home here. Except Marmite.

- keen on both cats and dogs and not entirely sure why people get so excited by which you prefer

- love being out in the garden though it's all very optimistic

- believe people are doing the best they can with the resources they have

- keen to challenge myself. This year it's been joining a choir and looking at doing a mini Tri.

I am not

- enthusiastic with those driving in the middle lane

- keen on marmite...but I think you've guessed that.

- good at dealing with faffing

- able to watch horror films. They literally keep going in my head for days afterwards. There are better things to do.

5 Tips for Managers

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 13:33:09 GMT

1: Get to know your Team

2: Encourage open Communication

3: Promote equity, diversity and inclusion

4: Recognise and celebrate achievements

5: Create moments of connection

For free resources visit the MHFA resources page here

How is your First Aider doing?

Wed, 03 Dec 2025 13:00:22 GMT

Having Mental Health First Aiders (MHFAs) in the workplace is becoming just as important as having physical first aiders, and for good reason. Work can be stressful, fast-paced, and sometimes overwhelming, and having someone trained to spot the early signs of mental distress can make a huge difference. MHFAs offer a friendly, confidential ear and can guide colleagues towards the right support before things get too heavy. Their presence helps break down the stigma around mental health, creating a culture where people feel more comfortable opening up rather than bottling things up.

It’s also important to remember that Mental Health First Aiders are people too. They need time in their schedules to properly engage with colleagues, listen without rushing, and support them in a meaningful way. This role can be emotionally demanding, so MHFAs also need opportunities for respite, reflection, and support themselves. When businesses acknowledge this, the role becomes far more sustainable—and much more effective.

So how can a business actually measure the benefits? Traditional key indicators like sickness absence linked to stress or mental health, employee engagement scores, and staff turnover can be insightful but rarely cover the full story.

Therefore gather feedback directly from staff —ask whether they feel supported, whether they know who the MHFAs are, and if they feel comfortable reaching out. Remember to have a variety of First Aiders from different genders and ages, to different backgrounds and departments. You can also check how often wellbeing resources are being used. Finally involve your First Aiders. They will have ideas and see gaps that can help you to provide a more effective well-being plan with the cherry on top being it all tends to make your business more effective too!

Tech Time Out Please!

Tue, 02 Dec 2025 13:29:10 GMT

Digital tools have transformed modern work, helping teams collaborate faster and achieve more. Yet the same technology designed to make work easier is also quietly overwhelming employees. Constant notifications, emails, and alerts have blurred the boundaries between work and rest, contributing to a growing issue: digital burnout.

Research highlights the scale of the problem. Microsoft’s Work Trend Index (2025) reports that employees now receive hundreds of emails and notifications each day, resulting in around 275 daily interruptions. While each interruption seems minor, the cumulative effect is significant. Studies from the University of California, Irvine, show it can take more than 20 minutes to refocus after a distraction, meaning hours of productive time are lost to constant context-switching. Beyond productivity, the human impact is profound, with continuous connectivity driving stress, mental fatigue, and the sense that work never truly ends. Deloitte estimates that poor mental health costs UK employers £51 billion annually, much of it due to digital presenteeism—being online but mentally depleted.

This is why digital wellbeing is becoming a critical part of workplace culture. Technology itself isn’t the problem; it’s how organisations manage it. Supporting digital wellbeing means helping employees use technology intentionally rather than reactively. Practical strategies include setting norms around response times, creating protected focus time, encouraging screen-free breaks, and setting boundaries around out-of-hours communication. These actions shift culture toward valuing focus, rest, and human connection.

Techtimeout Tuesday, held on 2 December 2025 and supported by Mental Health First Aid England, encourages workplaces to take intentional time away from screens. By stepping back—even briefly—staff can reflect on how technology affects their wellbeing and reconnect with what matters.

Ultimately, improving digital wellbeing isn’t just about reducing screen time. It’s about designing healthier, more sustainable ways of working so people can genuinely thrive.

What's crazy about our language?

Wed, 26 Nov 2025 10:07:59 GMT

Using language that is appropriate to mental health is more than just choosing the “right” words—it’s about creating a culture where people feel understood, respected, and safe. When we talk about mental health using clear, factual, and neutral language, we help reduce stigma and make it easier for people to seek support without fear of judgement.

Certain phrases have historically been used without much thought, but they can unintentionally reinforce negative ideas. For example, describing someone as “crazy” or saying a person “committed” suicide reflects outdated views and can imply blame or wrongdoing. Similarly, referring to an individual as “suffering from” a condition can suggest that their identity is defined by distress, even when they may be managing their mental health in a stable or empowered way. Using respectful alternatives helps shift the focus to the person, not the condition. Phrases like “a person living with bipolar disorder” or “a person who died by suicide” are more accurate and compassionate without being emotional or sensational.

Language also plays a powerful role in how we think about ourselves. When we use neutral, person-centred terms, we help normalise mental health experiences as part of human life. This encourages more open conversations and reduces the sense of isolation many people feel. It also helps professionals, friends, and communities communicate more effectively and respond with understanding.

Most importantly, thoughtful language can make a real difference in someone’s willingness to reach out. When people hear others speaking in a respectful and informed way, it sends the message that their experiences are valid and that seeking help is welcomed—not judged.

By choosing accurate, non-emotive words, we contribute to a healthier, more inclusive environment where mental health is treated with the same care and clarity as physical health. It’s a small change with a meaningful impact.

International Men's Day

Sat, 15 Nov 2025 14:33:15 GMT

To all our fabulous Men!

Today on International Men’s Day, we’re celebrating the men in our lives — dads, brothers, mates, colleagues — and also shining a very important spotlight on men’s mental health. Because it matters. A lot.

In the UK, the stats are clear: men continue to face mental health challenges often in silence. For example, in England and Wales in 2023 the suicide rate for men was 17.4 deaths per 100,000, compared to 5.7 for women. Office for National Statistics
And even more stark: around three-quarters of suicide deaths are by men.

On top of that, men make up just about 36% of referrals to NHS talking-therapies in the UK, meaning a lot of guys aren’t getting connected with support. UK Therapy Guide

Why is this the case? Often, it’s because of stigma, ideas of “just get on with it”, perhaps worry about being judged. But here’s the truth: seeking support is not a sign of weakness — it’s a sign of strength.

So on this International Men’s Day, let’s encourage the men around us to open up. It could be a simple message: “How are you really doing?” or “I’m here if you want to talk.” Whether that leads to a chat with a friend, a cup of tea, or contacting a professional, these small steps matter.

If you’re a man reading this: you don’t have to face things alone. If you’re supporting a man: your listening ear could change a life. Let’s make talking about mental health the norm, not the exception. Because every man deserves to feel heard, supported and valued.

Here’s to men’s health, men’s wellbeing — today and every day..

Why Gratitude Matters for your Mental Health?

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 15:44:28 GMT

Why gratitude matters for self-care & mental health

Self-care doesn’t have to be complicated. One simple tool to add to your toolkit? Gratitude.

�� What is gratitude & why it matters

Gratitude is all about recognising the good in our lives and acknowledging it. According to research, practising gratitude isn’t just a “nice extra” – it actually links to better mental and emotional wellbeing. Psychology Today . For instance, a systematic review of gratitude interventions found that people engaging in such practices experienced fewer symptoms of anxiety and depression and better mood overall. PubMed

�� What UK stats tell us

In the UK, national well-being indicators show a drop in life satisfaction, happiness and increased anxiety in recent years. For example:

Average life satisfaction dropped to 7.45/10 in the year ending March 2023. Office for National Statistics

The charity Mental Health Foundation found that 63 % of UK adults say when people are kind to them, it positively impacts their mental health (and also 63 % say being kind to others helps). (Mental Health Foundation) While this isn’t gratitude per se, it’s closely aligned: feeling valued, acknowledging kindness and reflecting on the good. When you look at the broader evidence on gratitude-specific interventions: in worker populations a review found gratitude lists significantly improved perceived stress and depression. PubMed

�� How gratitude supports self-care & mental health

Shifts focus — Instead of getting stuck in “What’s wrong?”, gratitude helps us notice “What’s going right?”. That switch helps counter getting caught in negative thinking, which is common when we are feeling low.

Boosts resilience — Practising gratitude builds an inner “we’ve-coped-before” mindset. When we’ve recognised what’s good, even small things, we’re better equipped for tougher times. Psychology Today

Supports connections — Gratitude often involves others: saying “thank you”, noticing kindness. That strengthens relationships and social support, which are key to mental health.

Easy to implement — A quick “gratitude list” or simply pausing to acknowledge one thing you’re grateful for takes 2-3 minutes and can become a gentle habit.

�� A quick gratitude habit you can try

Tonight, before bed: write down three things you’re grateful for today — no matter how small (e.g., “a warm cup of tea”, “a smile from a colleague”, “a moment outside”). Do this for one week and notice what changes in how you feel.

�� Final thought

If self-care feels heavy or overwhelming, remember: you don’t always need big actions. Gratitude is a low-cost, evidence-informed habit that supports mental health, resilience and wellbeing. It’s not a cure-all, but when paired with other good practices (sleep, movement, connection) it’s a valuable piece of the puzzle.

Why I love being a MHFA Instructor

Thu, 16 Oct 2025 12:45:01 GMT

Training people to become First Aiders is a Joy!

I know, really cheesy right? But it's true. Thank you for the joy of the last several years.

We all deserve help

Sun, 11 May 2025 12:38:19 GMT

...and it makes a difference to recovery

The earlier you can spot and approach a mental health issue, the more likely you are to stop it from escalating. Recovery and hope thrive when we start talking more.

Get your Mental Health First Aiders® set up in your workplace now, rather than later.

Is Fear holding us back from Mental Health First Aid?

Wed, 15 Mar 2023 14:23:21 GMT

I still get a lot of people confused about what Mental Health is and what is most apparent is that the topic is perceived with a measure of fear.

So if we all experience Mental Health, sometimes good, sometimes poor, maybe an illness, what are we afraid of?

It seems there are quite a number: Fear of being associated with poor mental health, fear that we will be in a situation that’s frightening, fear that we will have to solve it, fear we will say or do the wrong thing, fear that it will affect our mental well-being.

Yet with every group that qualifies as First Aiders they realise that knowledge is the best protection. Poor mental health is everywhere, we are already facing issues and by being a first aider we feel calmer and more confident, we make a difference to those around us just by understanding, that stigma is being broken down through understanding, we realise we don’t need to solve issues, sometimes it’s ok to not engage, but by even doing the simplest things we can make a huge difference. So if anything mental health related makes you feel afraid then come and have a honest chat with me and let’s see what we can do to resolve it.

6 Reasons to invest in Mental Health

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Tue, 08 Nov 2022 15:55:10 GMT

6 Reasons why mental health and wellbeing matters for workplaces.

1. Did you know a Deloittes survey found that 61% of people leaving or planning to leave their roles in the near future cited poor mental health for their reason for leaving

2. MEntal health issues such as stress, depression or anxiety account for 17.9 million working days lost and an estimated cost of £56 billion to UK employers.

3. Government studies suggest that higher levels of well-being are associated with higher workplace productivity and financial performance.

4. Help to end prejudice against people with mental health issues. Create a culture where people feel supported to bring their whole self to work.

5. Improve employee satisfaction. Minimise staff complaints and discrimination claims.

6. Under the Equality Act 2010 employers have a duty not to discriminate and to make reaswonable adjustments in the workplace.

We can help you to build your mental health and wellbeing strategy.

NEW MHFA England course

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Thu, 22 Sep 2022 08:35:56 GMT

NEW Mental Health First Aid course!!!

We have never needed it more, and it's never been better. WELCOME to the best First Aid course in the country!

The Details

MHFAiders® are essential to maintaining employee wellbeing. Our training is grounded in proven techniques and developed with clinical practitioners to ensure we provide the best course content possible.

We make sure everything taught is reflective of people’s real lived experiences of poor mental health.

And as a result, our course has proven to increase MHFAiders’® confidence in supporting people with mental health issues, meaning they can support your workplace more effectively in the long term.

But while MHFAiders® work to support others, they need support too. It is a crucial part of ensuring that MHFAiders® stay effective, confident and motivated to help their colleagues.

Through their training and certification, MHFAiders® become part of a workplace wellbeing community. With access to the MHFAider Support App®, they can access 24/7 digital support, as well as training resources and ongoing learning opportunities.

Additionally, MHFAiders® receive access to exclusive event s so that they can continue to develop their support for your workplace beyond the training course.

The MHFAider Support App® provides training resources and ongoing learning opportunities so that MHFAiders® can improve their support skills on the job.

MHFAiders® can help organise their roles with reminders and secure conversation journaling, to safely reflect on their work.

The MHFAider Support App® works to support the MHFAiders'® own mental health – the resources within can teach critical self-care skills, with the emotion tracker function allowing them to chart their own wellbeing.

The app provides 24/7 text support for when MHFAiders® are feeling overwhelmed or need guidance for certain situations.

MHFAiders® have access to regular online events that provide further learning and support, allowing them to continue to perform their role confidently and effectively, long after receiving their initial training.

Anxiety Seminar

Wed, 08 Jun 2022 14:51:50 GMT

9 top tips from
3 incredible experts at
1 bargain price.

Learn 3 ways to support yourself and others with mental health first aid trainer Julia Davies

Pick up 3 practical tips to reduce anxiety and stress with anxiety specialist Caroline Cavanagh

Then leave with 3 tools to move towards a more positive relationship with anxiety with me, Rose Latham a life coach

This is not to be missed. Tickets available NOW, link in the comments.

Share with friends, colleagues and family members who you know experience anxiety.

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/anxiety-supporting-yourself-and-others-tickets-345620589487

Mental Health Misunderstandings

Sun, 22 May 2022 10:38:42 GMT

Some key facts about Mental Health

Statistics behind Mental Health in our young People

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Mon, 14 Feb 2022 12:39:20 GMT

10% of children and young people have a

clinically diagnosable mental health issue
Source: Green et al. Mental health of children and young people in

Great Britain

50% of mental health issues are established
by age 14 and 75% by age 24
Source: Kessler: Lifetime Prevalence and Age-of-Onset Distributions of

DSM-IV Disorders

Suicide is the most common cause of death
for people aged 5-19

Source: Public Health England: Health Profile for England 2017

80% of young people say exam pressure has
a big impact on their mental health

Source: Young Minds: Wise Up report

But only 25% of young people with a
diagnosable mental health issue get access to
the treatment and care they need

Source: Green et al.

10 years is the average delay between
a young person first showing symptoms of
mental ill health and getting hel p

Source: Centre for Mental Health: Missed Opportunities report

In an average classroom of 30 15-year-olds,
10 are likely to have watched their parents
separate, 7 are likely to have been bullied, 6
may be self-harming and 1 has experienced
the death of a parent
Source: Public Health England: Promoting children and young people’s

emotional health and wellbeing

And since these Statistics were published (before Covid) there has been a 77% rise in the number of children needing specialist treatment for severe mental health crisis.

Last week the BBC released a report showing that the statistics are growing at a terrifying rate. Amount many figures the report stated “Some 409,347 under-18s were referred to the NHS in England for specialist care for issues such as suicidal thoughts and self-harm between April and October 2021.”

There are endless reasons why this has come about most of which lead back to the consequences of Covid19. But the upshot is the same. A mental health crisis is unfolding, and our youngers needs our support, guidance and understanding now more than ever.

If you are dealing with someone (of any age) who is experiencing poor mental health, please give them your time, your listening skills without judgement, your kindness and hope. Start with your GP and then seek out charities and other organisations that understand what the individual is going through and can offer advice.

New Year, New Start

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Sat, 01 Jan 2022 10:13:01 GMT

Mental Health investment offers great returns!

It’s the festive seasons, a time for family, friends, celebration, and a well-earned break. But after such a difficult year many of us are facing more pressure than normal as well as personal or financial hardships.

As employers it’s more important than ever to offer support to staff. Forbes estimated that for every £1 invested in employee well-being an organisation can see a £3-5 return. Now that is something to celebrate! Mental ill-health exists everywhere and by creating supportive environments and open-minded cultures, organisations reap the benefits of increased loyalty, morale, and productivity.

So where to start? Proper rest is key so prioritise wellbeing.

A few ideas:
-    Stick to work hours. Statistics show that individuals produce their best work in the first 7 hours. Anymore and you’re doing your staff and your clients a disservice.
-    Set delays on emails so that they only arrive during work hours. Don’t call outside of work hours.
-    If someone is not managing the workload, then your client is not getting your best quality. Don’t overload. Invest in training and create teams that can support each other.
-    Create a winter and a summer office close-down where everyone gets a break and doesn’t return to a stack of email.
-    Create an annual well being day.
-    Have trained Mental Health First Aiders so that they can fully support your team and empower the First Aider to make the changes to create a richer and more understanding culture.
-    Get feedback from employees about their workplace experience
-    Be emotionally aware of others. It’s been a difficult year. Some people may be keen to socialise, others keen to avoid.
-    Give yourself time off too. You need and deserve it.
And whatever your organisational plans are for 2022, make sure that you have a mental health and well being strategy at the heart of your approach.

Why surviving the festive seasons, means walking out the door!

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Thu, 02 Dec 2021 09:58:22 GMT

Are you feeling overwhelmed?

It doesn’t matter whether you in a town or in the country, the benefits of getting outdoors are essential to coping with the over excitements of the festive season. If there’s one thing you can do for your mental health then it’s this: get out for at least 30 minutes every day. Stroll, walk, run, cycle. It really doesn’t matter what form. Try to cut back on all interference and leave the phone and any gadgets/watches behind. This isn’t about setting a time or a pace. It’s about unwinding with no quiet tech judgement that you could have gone further/faster. Set yourself free and go tech-free.

Take the time to empty your mind, let thoughts come and go. Don’t focus on any negatives, you can come back to any important issues later. Leave the responsibilities and obligations at the door for now. It’s just you. Be aware of your breathing and breathe deeper, let yourself unwind, focus on the details of the landscape/cityscape around you and notice the details. Breathe. If you can, then get out to somewhere green and quiet. It’s so simple yet so restorative. Don’t forget to look after you and have a lovely festive season.

Suicide Prevention Video from IASP

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 12:50:19 GMT

A word from the International Association for Suicide Prevention

Such great advice from the IASP.

Remember:

Listen with out judgement

Stay with the individual

Let them know you care and there is hope

Be genuine

Get help.

Mental Health Podcast Part 1!

Sun, 18 Apr 2021 08:17:19 GMT

Podcast with David Watson on Mental Health

David Watson's life experience come together with an insight into Mental Health and how it influences us all.

Children's Mental Health Week

Mon, 01 Feb 2021 21:12:50 GMT

It’s Children’s Mental Health Week!!

What troopers they have been over the last year and they very much deserve a little focus on their well-being. The side effects of all the last year and the stresses in their families will have had repercussions for many. So how best to talk about Mental Health? Here are a few tips:

1. Don’t make a big deal about having to talk about it. Let them know they can always talk to you. Dragging information out of them isn’t going to help, however knowing you care will.

2. Choose a suitable time : When it’s just the two of you, when you’re involved in a task (driving, cooking, clearing up) so that you’re not necessarily putting your focus directly on them which can make someone feel self-conscious and clam up.

3. Listen, really listen . Reflect back what they’re saying so you can properly understand, for example ‘so it sounds like you’re finding it difficult not seeing your friends like you used to’.

4. Don’t try to fix their problems . That obviously doesn’t mean be ambivalent or brush over it with a ‘it’ll be ok’ but it’s all to easy to try and find a solution. You can later suggest that you could try and come up with ideas together that might help but sometimes problems can’t be solved and simply being able to tell someone how you feel and why you might be quiet/angry/tearful/confused/lacking in concentration will already be a big help.

5. Some problems may be too big/complex, or you may be too close. Accept that sometimes your child may prefer to talk to someone else . Don’t take it personally, just make sure they’re talking, and encourage it to be someone who is sensible and can guide them to suitable support and, where needed help them find a suitable professional.

6. Find something to laugh about every day . This can be really hard. But even if it’s just a short TV programme like ‘you’ve been framed’ the slap stick humour is highly likely to make a child giggle releasing loads of good endorphins.

Finally give yourself a break and remember to find someone to talk to too!

Christmas: Family, Fun and Festivity?

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Mon, 07 Dec 2020 12:07:37 GMT

Christmas: Family, Fun and Festivities?

Christmas is awesome! It’s synonymous with family, laughter, friends, dancing, gifts, a fight to get the Christmas tree up, terrible songs and mulled wine strong enough to knock Rudolf out!

Our tendency however is to romanticise this time of year expecting it to be perfect. This year of course it's going to be very different anyway. Even though we are allowed to see family the regulations will mean that there may now be families divided with difficult decisions about who can see whom. Lots of us may decide to avoid seeing family altogether with a vaccine likely so soon. Either way it's most likely to add more heart ache and pain for a fraught time of year.

The result is even the calmest person begins to feel stressed as the bank account haemorrhages cash, we can’t agree on who we get to see, every surface is covered to the point of madness and we expect ourselves to produce a Turkey worthy of Nigella.

Here are a few tips:

-    Be kind to yourselves. If you or someone you know are experiencing poor mental health, then Christmas can either be a great balm or brutal.

-    Keep a list of what is making you feel worse or better. Writing it down helps you to clarify your state of mind.

-   Then focus on steps that make your day better . Maybe it’s regular exercise. Maybe it’s sleep. Allow yourself these things

-   If work is adding to your stress levels, then chat to your manager or a sympathetic team member about how the workload can be better managed. If your boss isn’t interested, then get them to do a Mental Health First Aid course as they obviously need it!!

-   Accept Christmas isn’t going to be perfect! It's the imperfections that make it memorable and fun.

-   Manage expectations. This can be tough. It might be chatting with a loved one about what they want their Christmas to look like and then sharing your thoughts and negotiating this calmly. It’s a lot easier to do before Christmas then to add to the stresses of the big day. It may mean explaining to kids that there might only be a couple gifts this year but that instead you are going to play some great games together.

-   Family and friends can be great to share problems with, but they may also not have time for deeper chats. Instead focus on asking for a time when you can sit down and talk or go for a walk. Talking is a great health preserver. If you can’t talk to your family then arrange a time with a buddy. Or ring Samaritans on 116123 or text SHOUT on 85258 for a text chat.

Finally, whilst it does not sound fun, if you are not feeling well then please don’t drink . Look up some good mocktails. An orange juice mixed with sparkling water/lemonade and a bit of ice can look delicious and make you feel so much better too. If you are not feeling well then drink and drugs will make it a lot worse. Please don’t be tempted.

If you would like to know more about supporting someone with a Mental Health illness, then find out more about our courses here

Mental Health Support at University

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Thu, 26 Nov 2020 12:22:07 GMT

When uni isn't as fun as you thought it would be....

University: fun, friends, freedom, new adventures, oh and that degree that will give you an exciting future. What an amazing time, right? Yet often it is really tough and can be pretty lonely. Subject matter that doesn’t make sense, feeling you don’t fit in and can’t find your tribe, housing issues, financial worries, missing home and if it isn’t hard enough normally then this year, we had Covid too. Totally pants. So, if you are feeling a bit rubbish then that’s not just OK, it’s totally understandable. What is not ok however is letting it become your norm. You deserve better. So much better.

So, here are a few pointers.

Firstly, make sure you are taking it easy on the booze and you are eating well.

Make sure you are getting out for some fresh air. It really really does help.

Set small targets with your work: I will read the next two pages and make notes then spend 10 minutes doing something that makes me feel good.

Remember social media helps you connect….it also can make you feel rubbish. If you step away from your social media and feel worse than you did when you opened it up, then record how long you are on there over the course of one day and set yourself targets to cut down. Instead listen to podcasts that inspire you, make you laugh, talk about things you feel passionate about -it can even be about the course you are studying and kill two birds with one stone!

Join a club – ok you might not be able to go climbing/play football at the moment, but they might be planning stuff online that you can join in with. What’s more there are plenty of other clubs such as quiz, meditation, art, music, film that are still going strong. Try something new and see where it takes you.

Your club might have a welfare officer who can make you feel more settled.

If you have a diagnosed condition, then the university Disabilities services are point of contact that might prove useful.

Universities will also have a financial department so if you are struggling with your funding then go to them sooner rather later whilst any concerns can still be worked out. You won’t be the first person to be in the position you are in and they will have some good tips to help you through.

Universities often have a counselling service but the waiting list for this can be epic. Speak to your GP about NHS based support, as well as advice on online CBT or private counselling. Remember if you do not like a counsellor then ask for another. Sharing really personal stuff with someone who doesn’t make you feel comfortable isn’t going to work for either of you. If you are paying for a counsellor then interview them first! (google this – interviewing a potential counsellor really is thing!!)

Don’t dismiss charities that either specialise in mental health conditions such as depression, self-harm, anxiety etc or more general ones such as www.studentminds.org.uk . They have a wealth of knowledge and tips as well as people who know what you are going through. And remember that a problem shared really is a problem halved. Talk to people. They may well be finding things really difficult too.

Finally please stay safe, get help and remember that you are not alone: please keep taking small steps forward to find the person whose out there waiting to help you.

Is your child coping with Isolation?

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 09:31:27 GMT

Is your child coping with Isolation?

For some children, this period represents an incredible time when family is home for bedtime stories, shared mealtimes, have time for a game and generally much more contact. But for many children, including those seeing more of their carers, being isolated for such a long period, hiding from an unseen enemy that invites a lot of ‘I don’t know’ answers from carers, not being able to communicate with their friends, even the lack of routine and learning is a huge strain.

If your child is ‘in a mood’ or you’ve just noticed a change in behaviour that’s out of character for them, then this will be their way of coping with the emotions they are feeling and often don’t know how to express. Don’t worry, you’re not doing anything wrong. They have a right to feel a bit rubbish about all this. It is a rubbish time.

What can you do?

Firstly, don’t try to fix it. Sometimes life isn’t great and trying to ‘jolly’ a child out of it removes their chance to be allowed their feelings.

Give them a chance to talk about it. Sometimes that involves just sitting in silence.

Tell them they are being amazing. Because you have all stayed home hundreds (probably thousands, who knows exactly but a lot!) of lives have been saved. What a wonderful achievement.

Remind them that this will pass. They will go back to school, have friends over, visits places, go to the beach and see family again soon.

Remember to hug. Being around each other means there’s often a bit more tension. Try and stop, put down the phone, make eye contact and just be there with them.

If you can put a treat into the diary; it might a trip to Mc Donald’s, a visit to a friend, it doesn’t need to be expensive/difficult/complicated just something they’d like to do that they can look forward to ‘when this is all over’. With things opening again you might be able to offer a specific date or timeframe: even better.

The child may not want to talk to you now. Let them know you love them, the door is always open and you are there for them no matter what. Often we think our children must know this but how often do you actually say it?

Let them cry. Not on their own! But if crying is what is needed then give them the chance to cuddle up and let it all out.

Forgive. It’s really difficult to not get stressed about the behaviour especially if that behaviour is anger and acting out but this isn’t the time. If in doubt act with love. Not always easy but go with it. It’s the cause that your child is coping with that you need to sort out and no ‘naughty step/corner’ or cross words are going to start offering them the reassurance they need.

Finally be kind to yourself. It’s not easy. We are struggling too so if you do get cross, get yourself sorted out, apologise and then start again. This will all end. We will all have learnt from this – not sure what, but something! – and well done. You are brilliant. Give yourself a hug too.

5 Ways to Wellbeing - Step 5: Giving

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Fri, 22 May 2020 06:06:51 GMT

5 Ways to Wellbeing - Step 5: Giving

It seems odd to think that when our mental wellbeing is low and we feel drained, lost and overwhelmed, that giving can help. How do we find the energy for that?

The science, however, is overwhelming. A study in 1999 showed that elderly people who volunteered at two or more organisations were 44% more likely to live 5 years longer than those that didn’t. That’s impressive! A similar study in 2003 in found amongst elderly couples, “those individuals who provided practical help to friends, relatives, or neighbors, or gave emotional support to their spouses, had a lower risk of dying over a five-year period than those who didn’t”.( University of Michigan )

So why does giving lead us to feel better. Well, it gives us a sense of self-worth, when poor mental health often erodes our self-esteem. It gives us a chance to connect and is likely to lead to reciprocal behaviour.

During this crisis we have a great opportunity to give and many including ourselves need that connection. On a larger scale lots of organisations are looking for people to help with deliveries, to bring in crops, to volunteer in the local community. On a small scale simply smiling at someone, saying Hi, letting go any annoyance at someone else’s behaviour because they are handling the crisis in a way you don’t like. Try to let it go. There’s no way of knowing what they are going through so try not to judge and give them a smile too. You know your strengths so put them to good use.

Give time, give kindness, and give your yourself those things too.

If you are struggling please get in touch with your GP, or Mind or the Samaritans .

5 Ways to Wellness - Step 4 Learning

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Thu, 21 May 2020 05:44:19 GMT

5 way to Wellness - Step 4 Learning

This blog is for those of you who know this is a good time for learning....and can’t.

Someone once said to me, "I don’t know how people with time can be bored. There’s so much I would do". I was trying to find work at the time, had no money and therefore had an urge to tell her to take a hike. I understood what she meant but it's almost inevitable that when you have time you don’t have much money, and when you have some money you don’t have Time. Stating that “now” is a great time to learn new skills is obvious but can add a lot of stress and pressure to a situation whilst eroding the very self-esteem you are trying to preserve.

So this is about giving yourself a break and not what else you should/ could be doing. There's enough to worry about. So, if you have time, money, motivation, found free stuff and are doing a crash course in whatever interests you, then that’s fab. I salute you.

If you can’t then don’t let this be something to beat yourself up about. Thoughts about what you ‘should be’ doing are destructive. Learning might bring images of new skills, greater knowledge and personal development, but the fact is that it’s nine weeks into a pandemic and you are up today getting through it. You have coped with all these days in isolation and learnt how to manage with the admin, tasks, new pressures, and the loss of your tribe which in itself is a type of bereavement even if short lived.

It might not always feel as if you were getting through in the best way, but who cares. This is about you: give yourself a huge hug for having learnt all that you have to get to today. So, as opposed to looking at your phone and all the things other people are doing, worrying about all those enticing apps that promise to impart all the answers, go and put the phone away, lie down, close your eyes and go think about yesterday’s blog : breathe, smell, taste, feel, breathe, be. Breathe. You are special. Learn to let yourself be you, and know that is already enough.

Stay safe. If you feel low please call your GP, or Mind or the Samaritans .

Mental Awareness Week - Step 3 Take Notice

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Wed, 20 May 2020 05:47:31 GMT

Mental Health Awareness week - Step 3 Take Notice

Taking Notice: I like this one! So simple yet it can hard to actually get round to doing this. For once though isolation is working with us and given us the chance to get better at this. And it is an important life skill. Most of us currently have more time and our over stimulated minds are having a break from bonkers diary schedules and huge lists of ‘to-dos’. So now is the time to build a new habit because none of us want to reach the end of our lives and realise we forgot to be present whilst it happened!

So today is the big day. Big because you’re going to properly use your senses and take moments to live them.

Watch your children/dog/the birds outside play without thinking ‘is today bin day? Must put those out’. No, don’t get out your phone. Your life is in front of you. There’s nothing you need from your phone. In fact, try and get into the habit of leaving it in one place in the house and only getting it when you need it to do a specific task. Now you’re free. So back to watching. Notice the actions and reflect on why and what is going on. Breathe. And again. Push out any random thoughts that have nothing to do with what you see and just enjoy being there. Feel the warmth of the sun, if you can stand in a sunny spot and allow yourself to feel comfortable with yourself.

Listen to the traffic/dog walkers/the neighbours’ conversation and enjoy the fact that you are resting and taking a that moment. Breathe

Feel the fabric soft against your skin and allow yourself to feel grateful for its comfort. Breathe

Eat slower. Yes, you can eat all the biscuits. It’s probably not your best idea but I’ve already eaten mine so I’m not judging. But take the time to enjoy each biscuit/crispness of apple/softness of banana – the wealth of flavour, the texture and give it a good chew. And a bonus: if you can enjoy one it probably less necessary to eat the whole packet ;o) Breathe

Breathe in, how many different smells there are. Nope, don’t worry about those that shouldn’t be there and the cleaning you should be doing, just be there with them. That’s what life currently smells like. That’s ok too. ‘Should’ is an evil stick we beat ourselves away. Lock him out. You are you. That’s just great.

Keep breathing, go on, just a bit deeper; if you can then breathe in for the count of 8 and out for the count of 6 but whatever suits you really. This is yours. These are your moments. A chance to reflect, enjoy, feel good about yourself, remind yourself about all the good things you are, all the possibilities you hold. Don’t add pressure. She’s an unwelcome guest to this party. This is about you. The incredible creation you are and the incredible world around you. Breathe

Yes, you’re being Mindful. This is all it is. Nothing weird and difficult. Just the need for all of us to find ourselves amidst our crazy lives. It’s a skill that allows us to step back and understand others, to keep calm, to be better at negotiating deals whether with a landlord, a business acquaintance or our families. Take the time to practice. It’s important to your mental health that you give yourself permission to reflect, to be aware of the immediate things around you with no invasive thoughts and to take pleasure in the moments. Now is the most important time you have. And now is the time to learn to live the now.

Good luck, stay safe and if you need support please ring your GP, or Mind or the Samaritans .

5 Ways to Wellness - Step 2 Exercise

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Tue, 19 May 2020 05:23:21 GMT

Why is exercise so important?

It would take someone living in a cave for the last several decades to think saying ‘go exercise, it will help!’ is somehow revolutionary. We all know exercise helps. I have been reading about it for years, our gym instructors have told us, our doctors mention it delicately. All those endorphins, right?

But in lockdown going round the same block every day occasionally receiving a Paddington style ‘hard stare’, if caught near a view or bench too long, we begin to lose the will to keep going out.

So here are a few science based facts to keep you focused:
-    Exercise can cut mild to medium depression by a third, and it doesn’t need to be a heavy cardio work out. Any exercise! ( NHS website )
-    "The link between exercise and mood is pretty strong," Michael Otto , PhD, a professor of psychology at Boston University says, "Usually within five minutes after moderate exercise you get a mood-enhancement effect."
-    "There's good epidemiological data to suggest that active people are less depressed than inactive people. And people who were active and stopped tend to be more depressed than those who maintain or initiate an exercise program," says James Blumenthal, PhD, a clinical psychologist at Duke University. If you are interested, Blumenthal goes on to show some really interesting research into long term depression and exercise but that’s not for today.
-    The simple act of focusing on exercise can give us a break from current concerns and damaging self-talk

So yes, the same block may be dull, doing the same indoor work out might have lost its sheen, trying to start the day with yoga when it’s new to you may drive you back under the duvet, but now is the time to stick with it. Only 5 minutes in and you start to feel better, that’s amazing bang for buck. So I’ll be up again early tomorrow and I will be hoping you carve some time out of your day and escape the four walls to get some exercise too. Or if it’s just too scary to go out, then find a new workout instructor and mix it up. ANYTHING is better than nothing. Good luck. Stay Safe.

As a note if it’s all getting too much then do call your GP. Or get in Alternatively Mind and the Samaritans offer a lot of very good advice.

5 Ways to Wellness - Step 1 Connect

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Mon, 18 May 2020 05:08:14 GMT

Staying Connected

By now we have all worked out Zoom and the various forms of calling friends to have a chat. But we are now 8 weeks into Lockdown and even those of us who like to be at home are beginning to miss the company of friends and even the most annoying relative. It's hard to feel properly connected to someone through a screen and I certainly miss the bear hug of one friend or the compassionate arm squeeze of another. I hear you, it's rubbish!

With the end date constantly slipping back it can become easy to feel fed up with attempts to stay in touch and without even realising to withdraw. Please don't. We are tribal creatures. We need each other.

So at the start of Mental Health Awareness week today's tip is keep connecting, and do not give up on those calls. As people are inventing new ways of reaching out - I liked the story of two neighbours using a fence panel swung horizontally as a 2 bar and discovering how much they liked each other! - now more than ever go beyond those immediate contacts. We all have dozens of contacts in our phones most of which we have long stopped calling because for some reason nowadays a call seems intrusive. Well now is the perfect time to check in on someone. They will appreciate a call and maybe we will leave this crisis with our friends feeling more cherish and our own support group feeling stronger.

If you have exhausted all your phone contacts, then try the following:
•    Find your local group looking for volunteers to help with the current crisis: https://covidmutualaid.org/local-groups/
•    Ask your local charities if they need help or support
•    Check your social media for groups that might interest you. Remember to find things that make you feel good and make you laugh.
•    Whilst we are on social media, clear yours up so that your feed shows you stuff that you want to see not an acquaintances top 10 soul destroyingly beautiful holiday snap with her looking stunning in the all. That's nice for her/him but really adds nothing to your life so 'hide' it and move on.
•    Talk to people in your local shops and ask them how they are. Just because.
•    Smile and wave. The Madagascar penguins said it best and whilst they were being sneaky, I mean this in the kind open way that we have all been busy to do before.

If you are feeling sad, lethargetic and struggling beyond what you regard normal please contact your GP. Alternatively Mind a nd the Samaritans offer a lot of very good advice.

Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig review

183:799328773 (Julia Davies) — Thu, 16 Apr 2020 10:32:43 GMT

Reasons to Stay Alive Book Review

Matt Haig’s insightful books follows a path a lot of people will have experienced. Confusion, pain, a sense of being utterly alone and desperately fearful followed by the diagnosis of depression and anxiety.

We follow the author through his most notable highs and lows, his insights, and gradual realisations.

These crippling ailments consume so many lives and in this book there will undoubtedly be some very useful bits of advise as well as a sense of ‘it’s not just me’ for any fellow suffers. Both useful to those with depression and/or anxiety, it’s an easy to read book.

Advice to HR Managers during Covid19

Wed, 08 Apr 2020 10:57:06 GMT

HR Managers: Supporting staff during Isolation and the Coronavirus

I recently found myself reading an article in People Management about managing people remotely.

It focused heavily on those underperforming, ‘the rotten apples’, ‘sneaky ways’ to get people to report in when suspected of ‘slacking off’ and others way of trying to monitor ones’ workforce. Don’t get me wrong. I understand that businesses are in dire straits at the moment and need people to pull their weight now more than ever. But this tone and attitude is deeply unhelpful.

Time and again profitability and longevity of a business is linked to the culture within. Profits improve when employees feel valued and trusted. We all instinctively know this and yet employees are too often seen as the asset that can be squeezed the most.

HR Managers often feel they are in an impossible position, standing at the cross-roads between the companies need to increase performance for achieve their goals, and the employees’ needs which can be seen as conflicting.

As HR Managers you will know far better than I, what legal frameworks you have to adhere to. However, from a Mental Health First Aid viewpoint, things are quite simple: be kind.

Kindness involves patience and that isn’t easy when you have a million things to do, but here are a few things you can do.

Set up groups that can check in with each other. There will be natural teams which can get in touch via things like Zoom, however it’s also important for colleagues to have one to ones and be able to chat. These won’t always be work related but that actually is the value to you. Giving people time to step from their isolation is important.
Those with autonomy perform better. Giving people the chance to shine can be rewarding and profitable all round.
Trust: there’s not much you can do unless you do plan to practice ‘sneaky monitoring’ and what will that achieve realistically?
This is a great time to practice better working practices. Do you really need everyone to come to work? Some people will perform better having more freedom. Have those conversations with them.

If someone is Mentally unwell here’s some basic Mental Health First Aid:

Listen
Reassure them. They won’t lose their job for this. You don’t’ judge. This person is fighting their own person hell at the moment, be gentle with them. It’s fine to say ‘I can’t imagine what that’s like but I’m here for you’. Empathy not sympathy – this is a great video.
When they are ready ask questions to establish basic information: have they had a mental based illness before, establish how bad things are at the moment (if they indicate they are suicidal ASK THEM STRAIGHT OUT ‘Are you thinking of suicide’ (this is the right question, you are not encouraging them. If they say yes, then they need medical support immediately), what symptoms they are suffering, has this happened before, what happened then.
You are not a therapist. Please don’t try to fix them or work out the ailment. Mental ill health can be a multitude of factors. Your employee is on a long complex painful journey. At this stage they just need to know you are with them on it.
Get them an appointment with their GP. That’s hard at the moment, but still possible. The GP is able to establish if there are any physical reasons behind the illness, it’s free and the GP can suggest the next step.
There are lots of charities dedicated to mental health ailments.: ones for OCD, Depression, Anxiety etc etc. I will list a few good ones below. Ask them to have a look at those for advice and support.
Keep in touch with them. Encourage them to get exercise and speak to loved ones.
If in doubt, be gentle, be kind. Not only will you feel better in yourself for this approach, but it’s the core of changing a business culture to one that gets employees to produce the best work. In 2018, 87% didn’t like or were ambivalent to work. Mainly they felt a lack of trust and autonomy. Now is a great opportunity to give them both.

And finally BE KIND to yourself . You work hard. You have a lot of people to care for. You deserve kindness too. Well done for trooping on despite all this. If you get stuck then do get in touch with me. I’m not an HR Manager or a therapist but I do understand Mental Health First Aid. There’s more information on my website blog. Stay healthy and good luck.

Working from home tips during Isolation

Wed, 01 Apr 2020 09:59:45 GMT

Working from home during Isolation

Working from home is not easy. It sounds ideal – no commute, your own space, free from interruption and as much tea/coffee/snacks as you want. The truth is that there is distraction, disconnection and the solitude can quickly become oppressive and demotivating.

You are not alone. You probably know the basic tips:
•   Keep to a normal work-day times including getting up at a sensible time (this is when you sort out any housework that you need to do before you ‘go to work’
•   Get dressed. PJs are cosy and it feels a naughty treat for the first day but can become a habit. You are a professional so whilst you might dress down still shave or put on makeup, make an effort to dress, and wash.
•   Don’t get involved in the washing, bed making during work. It’s tempting when you hear the washing machine finish but you can leave that till your lunch break.
•   Take a break. Go for a walk. 30 mins of exercise 5 times a week can make a huge difference to your mental well-being.

If you’re feeling stressed, isolated, anxious, unhappy, confused or low then please do the following :
-   Talk to your line manager and let them know what is going on.
-   Keep in touch with those people you normally speak to. Ask them how they are getting on. Be sensitive to their well being and try and encourage them. In helping others, you will feel better about yourself. They will most likely want to return the favour too though they may not be able to at the moment.
-   Take breaks during your working day. You would do normally so make sure you go and get yourself a cup of tea etc. If you’re feel anxious though please avoid caffeine.
-   Try to avoid any social media or news that is pushing negative information. Whether true or false it will add little value to your day other than to make you worry. Absorb positive stories instead. Society is made up vastly of lovely people.

Outside of work time: connect, connect, connect.

Talk to family, talk to friends, foremost talk to people who make you laugh or have a positive outlook. There are plenty of groups we can access online that share our interests. Talk to them, but if it gets negative then leave.

Isolation can play havoc with the mind. Make sure you’re talking to someone or taking part in something. And don’t sit alone watching ‘Contagion’. There’s plenty of comedy on TV – even if it’s just old recordings of Friends – it’s a fabulous release.

Please look after yourself. You are wonderful. You will get through this. Good luck.

Coping with General Anxiety during Covid19

Mon, 30 Mar 2020 08:31:59 GMT

Keeping calm during Covid19 times

If you are anything like me there would have been a temptation to make a huge G&T, hunker down, watch endless newsreel and grow steadily more wide-eyed and worried. Tempting but don’t!!

I have never heard the word unprecedented used so often: these are definitely crazy times. Our busy lives have ground to a near halt and, having always thought ‘more time’ would be great, we suddenly find ourselves with diaries cleared for the foreseeable future. That in itself can feel rather unhinging.

This ‘break’ from our schedules doesn’t come with the relaxing effects of a holiday. Instead we have the relentless worries of how our loved ones are faring, how to earn, how to keep a business afloat, employees paid and stock from spoiling, how to entertain little ones, false use and misinformation, queues at shops, online or on call helplines, crime, the financial repercussions of the current spending, the list goes on and on.

Here are a few tips to keep in mind to stave off anxiety:

1. If the statistics are worrying you then turn off the TV and radio. Listen to your own music lists, watch iPlayer/Netflix/box sets, whatever you have. There is no benefit in scaring yourself with information that you can’t do anything about other than distancing yourself. So, give yourself a break from it.

2. The same goes for Social media. If it’s not helping your mental help, then flick over it and find the heart-warming stories instead. This is a great time to view how much society is working together.

3. 30 minutes of moderate exercise 5 times a week is statistically proven to make a huge difference to your well-being. If you’re not stuck in a town then make the most of the countryside and get out. You may not feel like it, but the exercise will release endorphins and help improve your mood. If you’re city-bound then this is a quite a bit harder. Don’t beat yourself up about it but if you can make the most of what space you have then there are loads of youtube video ideas to get in some exercise. If nothing else, dance to your favourite tunes in the kitchen!

4. Breathe

5. This is a great time to connect to people. Usually we send texts, but a call is so much nicer and helps us feel connected. Not only will having a chat with a friend help you but in caring for your friends at this moment, it will make you feel better too. There’s a lot of research that in supporting others we feel better about ourselves, have a greater sense of purpose and, importantly for anxiety, of control of our environment.

6. Try and eat a balanced diet. I know it’s an obvious one and not always easy at the moment so I won’t go on about it! But if you can avoid Alcohol and coffee then that’s a great start.

7. Breathe.

8. Write a list of what you can control and what is beyond your control. Then focus on getting the former into the best order you can. Rip up the latter. Most of the worries won’t come to pass. You do not know the future so try to live in the present. I know easier said than done, but please try for your sake.

9. Breathe. Deeply. And again

10. Note all the amazing things that are going on: people really are kind, thoughtful and want to help each other. A while ago, quite a while ago, I hitch hiked through Europe. I was amazed that not only did my then boyfriend and I get a lot of lifts (we looked pretty smelly and had two huge backpacks) but the generosity that people show. We were often fed, had people sort accommodation for us, and on one occasion in Germany we were taken home and had a luxurious night in a proper bed. Keep that in mind when you hear of those that are behaving poorly. Remember they are vastly in the minority.

11. People work best in tribes. During this isolated time we want to connect and be part of something.

12. Try to do something for the soul, whether it’s an adult colouring book, sewing, learning an instrument, doing photo albums, learning a skill online and do it because you want to not because you’re berating yourself that ‘here’s another thing I can’t do’. Be kind to yourself.

13. Remember to laugh. Even if you don’t want to. Even forcing laughter can create a positive chemical release in your body. The more you laugh the more your body will be inclined too. I appreciate that can be hard at the moment.

14. And breathe. You’re fab. We all are. Soon this will be over and we’ll be back to wishing we had more time.

First Aid for Anxiety

Thu, 26 Mar 2020 09:06:43 GMT

First Aid for Anxiety and Covid 19.

First Aid for Anxiety: If you’re feeling sick, fluttery, tight chested, pounding heart, sweating, trembling, cramps, dizzy, detached, fearful, tingling then you may be experiencing anxiety such as a panic attack.

Try and steady your breathing. Below are a few exercises to help. In all cases they are about slowing your breath and concentrating on something in the moment with you so as you can regain a bit of control.

- Box breathing: look for anything square. Focus on the top left corner. Let your eyes follow the horizontal top line to the next corner and as you do this breath out slowly to the count of 5. At the corner let your eyes follow the vertical line down and try to breath in to the count of 5. At the bottom corner follow the horizontal line to the left corner breathing out for 5. Again, follow the vertical to the top breathing in for 5. It may take a few circuits but keep going until you can get your breath longer and slower.

- Finger breathing. Look at your left hand (if you’re right-handed, look at your right if you’re left-handed). Turn your palm towards you. With your other hand place your index finger at the base of the little finger on the hand you’re looking at. The idea is that as you breath in for the count of 5 you run your finger up the upside of your little finger, then you keep moving your index finger over the top of the little finger and go down the other side for the count of 5. Gradually you track up and down all the fingers of the hand you are looking at, each time breathing in and counting to 5 as you go up and breathing out to the count of 5 as you go back down.

- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. It doesn’t matter how you do this. The original idea is you tell yourself 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can touch, 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste. But if you’re panicking then trying to remember this correctly can be hard so go for whatever is in front of you i.e. 5 things that are red, 4 types of plant/ food etc etc.

Anxiety happens when an ancient piece on mental hardware in our brains overloads. The amygdala was supposed to shoot adrenalin into your bodies to help us escape sabre- toothed tigers. Not many of those around anymore. Now our crazy world overloads this once useful bit of kit, it panics, and we feel absolutely terrified when there isn’t actually life-threatening danger. It’s awful.

If you’re with someone having a panic attack, stay calm, speak slowly, find a quiet place and help them regain control over their breathing. Be aware that they may have asthma or even a heart attack so unless you know it’s a panic attack (they’ve told you) then call 999.

Thank you!!

Wed, 25 Mar 2020 16:11:17 GMT

Thank you to so many valuable members of society!

So many people are stepping up at the moment and going above and beyond. The keyworkers are amazing. What would we do without this fabulous care system we have? Thank you.

But there are so many more that deserve recognition.

This is not an exclusive list nor is it in any sort of order but it's a start.

Thank you:

All of you in all aspects of health care including those in mental health, hospices, cancer units, palliative care, midwives, A&E, dentists, surgeons, the list goes on and on here. You are all amazing. Thankyou.
The fire services
The police force
The forces
Teachers, nursery staff and anyone involved in childcare
Charities who are desperately trying to keep phones manned and communications going for their charities despite the issues
Those taking in homeless and making sure they get care and support
Social services
Prison services
Our transport men and women - land, sea and air
Our extraordinary delivery folk who have so much to more to move around the country, and carry on fleet footed and determined
All those dealing dealing with our waste and recycling
Those making sure our utilities continue to work. This would be so much harder if electricity, gas, water or our sewerage plants stopped
Farmers who are doing all they can to get food grown and to us as swiftly as possible
Those carrying out unavoidable highway maintenance
Banking, insurance and the government bodies that are desperately trying to make sure we have an income.
Vets, zoo keepers, stable managers and all those who have creatures that rely on them.
Everyone in the food industry whether in the logistics chain, stacking shelves or on a checkout.
All the services supporting the above.
And the families of those above.

Thank you all of you. And thank you to all of you for staying home to make sure their jobs don’t get harder. Go Team UK!

International Women's Day

Sun, 08 Mar 2020 12:55:01 GMT

The Power of Women

Often I feel this day comes and goes with a nod of appreciation but then getting on with our busy lives.

Really it deserves so much more. From a mental health point of view women, with so little as a feeling of discontentment in their marriage, could be sent to an asylum as recently as the 1900s. And the Asylums were full of women. Elaine Showalter argued that "madness is a female malady because it is experienced by more women than men"!

True, the UK tracks a global trend which statistically shows a greater number of women registered as suffering from mental illness then men. But this is because we seek help, we talk, we look for understanding, we try to share. Our male counterparts have an equal amount of battles but, ironically are now imprisoned by their own sense of shame and inability to find a way to communicate. Really the only shame is that they are suffering in silence.

So today we celebrate our strengths. And let us also celebrate the fact that we can spot someone locked up in their own mind and offer kindness not condemnation. Happy International Women's Day.

Christmas Mental Health Tips

Thu, 12 Dec 2019 11:36:11 GMT

For all the joy of Christmas time, it is also a really stressful time of year. Lists, shops, wanted gifts sold out, unwanted gifts to return, money spent, families staying with old tensions surfacing, too much food, too much drink. Or a profound sense of loneliness. A recent survey showed that millennials are the most likely to have no one to spend Christmas with. Christmas can be wonderful. It can also be really difficult.

With this in mind Heads Together have come up with some great ideas for dealing with all the issues that you might face this Christmas: anxiety, loneliness, bereavement and general mental health care are all addressed. Make sure you check it out!

Coping with Christmas

The Importance of being Immediate!

Mon, 02 Dec 2019 12:35:00 GMT

I recently I went to a fab talk on Social Media. Wow, what a lot of exciting things to explore!

But as I listened to the discussion turn to how important it is to respond to things immediately and how customers expect an immediate answer, I couldn’t help but think ‘Gosh, what added pressure. Don’t we all have enough to worry about without the fear of trying to get to everyone, all of the time, and immediately?’.

Don’t get me wrong. Social Media is great. But as I looked at all those listening to the talk and felt the pressure of yet another goal, we should all be doing in our hectic lives, I found myself conflicted. Yes, to replying. Yes, to engaging. Yes, to the joy of being able to ‘speak’ to likeminded people. But immediately?? When we have emails we are trying to reply to, accounts to sort, school runs, carol concerts, meetings, work to juggle? Wow, that’s an extra helping of stress isn’t it? How does that help our mental well-being?

I know everyone is different and often I too find that I’m used to a quick answer. But I also find that when the response is later rather than sooner, I am absolutely fine with that too and so my expectations shifts. It’s oddly calming to have someone slow the pace. In my case I develop a quiet respect for that business. I feel their enthusiasm in the response I get, and in the care they have taken to get to everyone and everything in due time: I recognise the fellow human behind it juggling a multitude of things but doing it with thought for each individual in turn.

So folks, I do care. I do want to engage. I do want to help. And I will do so immediately if that is possible. But I also care about you and your mental wellbeing, so therefore I say if you can be immediate, great. But if you can’t, then be kind to yourself and your best is good enough. People do understand that you to are busy and will do your best to respond as soon as you can.

Workplace Toolkit

Mon, 18 Nov 2019 10:16:18 GMT

Workplace Toolkit

MHFA England have many great resources. This is a really simple slide with numerous ideas to get you started at work!

Carer Support Wiltshire Local Charity of the Month

Mon, 11 Nov 2019 11:07:25 GMT

Are you a carer?

There are numerous reasons why you might be caring for someone and it can be hugely rewarding. It can also be exhausting and stressful giving you no time to care for yourself. There are over 5.4 million unpaid carers in the UK of which 700,000 are under 25 years old.

Our charity this month is Carer Support Wiltshire . This charity focuses on giving something back to these incredible carers whether it is access to all sorts of training, information, advice to help them return to work, support groups, and even a bit of pampering. Find out more about how Carer Support Wiltshire can help .

Sympathy vs Empathy

Mon, 04 Nov 2019 12:00:01 GMT

I love this brilliant short video by Brene Brown on Sympathy vs Empathy.

It's so important to stop your own issues and experiences taking over, to not 'silver line' an issue or even to allow for a good long silence.

What is Mental Health?

Mon, 21 Oct 2019 10:59:58 GMT

What is Mental Health First Aid?

So what is Mental Health First Aid (MHFA)?

We all have mental health. Some times we feel fine, some times we feel a bit rubbish, and sometimes things are awful and they don’t seem to get better. That's when we need help. There’s no single formula as to how to get better as we are all individual. But we do share a few common factors: the need not to feel judged, the desire for hope and support on our individual journey.

Mental Health First Aid is the training that supports some one with poor mental health. The more people that understand the more we can remove stigma and discrimination. And that’s a brighter day for all of us.