For some children, this period represents an incredible time when family is home for bedtime stories, shared mealtimes, have time for a game and generally much more contact. But for many children, including those seeing more of their carers, being isolated for such a long period, hiding from an unseen enemy that invites a lot of ‘I don’t know’ answers from carers, not being able to communicate with their friends, even the lack of routine and learning is a huge strain.

If your child is ‘in a mood’ or you’ve just noticed a change in behaviour that’s out of character for them, then this will be their way of coping with the emotions they are feeling and often don’t know how to express. Don’t worry, you’re not doing anything wrong. They have a right to feel a bit rubbish about all this. It is a rubbish time.

Firstly, don’t try to fix it. Sometimes life isn’t great and trying to ‘jolly’ a child out of it removes their chance to be allowed their feelings.

Give them a chance to talk about it. Sometimes that involves just sitting in silence.

Tell them they are being amazing. Because you have all stayed home hundreds (probably thousands, who knows exactly but a lot!) of lives have been saved. What a wonderful achievement.

Remind them that this will pass. They will go back to school, have friends over, visits places, go to the beach and see family again soon.

Remember to hug. Being around each other means there’s often a bit more tension. Try and stop, put down the phone, make eye contact and just be there with them.

If you can put a treat into the diary; it might a trip to Mc Donald’s, a visit to a friend, it doesn’t need to be expensive/difficult/complicated just something they’d like to do that they can look forward to ‘when this is all over’. With things opening again you might be able to offer a specific date or timeframe: even better.

The child may not want to talk to you now. Let them know you love them, the door is always open and you are there for them no matter what. Often we think our children must know this but how often do you actually say it?

Let them cry. Not on their own! But if crying is what is needed then give them the chance to cuddle up and let it all out.

Forgive. It’s really difficult to not get stressed about the behaviour especially if that behaviour is anger and acting out but this isn’t the time. If in doubt act with love. Not always easy but go with it. It’s the cause that your child is coping with that you need to sort out and no ‘naughty step/corner’ or cross words are going to start offering them the reassurance they need.